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Just came home from a week long hospital stay, I has an abcess on my kidney. Still not feeling great but feeling much better I was really sick.
Anyway, while in the hospital I really missed having my husband around it seemed so lonely and that I was all alone. My kids are just teens and I felt so bad for not being here they just kept saying when you coming home mom and I could see the fear on their face, after all I am all they have.
Life here has been a roller coaster these past couple of months. My son even quit going to football, he has returned and I am so happy about that because he loves it.
Daughter starting nursing school in August she will feel better about herself once she starts doing something just for her.
I am trying to go forward, some days are harder than others I just keep doing it odat. After all is there any other way.
We all miss him, it is obvious, our family will never be the same but by the grace of God we will be ok.
Being a single parent is very difficult, for all of you out there who have done it on your own I have a new respect for single parents everywhere. At least I had Chuck for most of the years my kids were growing up. Seems my son needs his father more now though at this age of 17. Teenage years can be so tough.
i agree being a single parent is hard especially to teenagers. I am so glad your son went back to football. It keeps mines focus and keeps his grades up also. i swear the last two semesters he slacks off makes good grades but will come up with a C some where. Just not putting forth the effort. And let your daughter know to just focus on school work and herself... let her know that you are there for her, nursing school is tough but gratifying. She will be very happy in the end. Mines is home and i still feel like a single parent but i was one for years before we got back together. small steps ... pace yourself your body has been through a lot. Best wishes to you and yours you are in my prayers.
Hi Andrea, I dont know your situation but do you have other males in your family who could help out? My son has developed a great relationship with his grandad and my brother plus my brother in-law. None of them can replace his dad but they do act as rolw models and do gut stuff.
ow!!!! I know that hurt! YOU go easy on you. Here I am being bossy.
oh Andrea I know where you are. I am doing somewhat better but it is not nice going to the hospital and or surgeries alone. My mother used to come too. sigh
I raised my kiddos from toddlers up. It is hard. I can tell ya they tend to have minds that remember only the times we mess up! lol
Do you have a man friend or uncle or cousin or gpa or somone he can be around once in awhile?
My son hung with my best friends husband and kids. He also had a friend who did not have a mom so I was his friends mom and the kids dad was his dad! He learned to fish by my uncle and loved my gpa.
They need a man to talk about man things. Gads when I had to buy him a "cup" for baseball, I never heard of one! He tells the guy he needs a large...he was 10 lol
I left him with the guy to help him.
You being there means everything,even when they act like they hate you. They don't, its just their confused selves, they do love you deep in there and depend on you even when they think we are stupid.....
I still miss my first husband Andrea. He was such a fun guy. LOVED the kids. It has been 28 years!
My kids are good people. But my daughter never got over the loss. She does not even know what it is she lost but she feels it. She resents me and it is killing me.
you have such a softness about you!
Seriously do take care. How does one get an abcess on their kidney anyway????
Sorry to hear you've been unwell. A week in hospital is a long time. I can't imagine how hard it must have been to be out of action, needing to focus on recovering and worried about kids at home.
I haven't been out of commission like that before, but I worry a lot about what would happen if I was? Would my son and grandson be ok? Would my AH? When I think about all the things that wouldn't get done - some of them are mine alone, but others are things I do for my son and AH that they should be doing for themselves. Makes me realize what a terrible enabler I am. Needless to say this is on my list of character defects to humbly ask HP to remove.
Andrea, from your prior posts I read that you are a strong and courageous woman. These traits are there for your children to see and practice for themselves. They also have their HP to chart their course in the "right" direction - whatever it might be.
So sorry you haven't been feeling well. That can't be fun. It seems overwhelming at times. But you've been through much more and can handle anything that comes your way. You are a woman of remarkable strength. I'm glad your son has returned to playing football. He's good at it. Your daughter will be a great nurse. She can practice on you the next couple of weeks. Let the kids take care of you. Get some rest. Try not to worry about the little things. It will only make your recovery harder. Who cares if there are dishes in the sink? The kids can do them.
I know Chuck and Tim are looking down at us and smiling. They loved us so much. The rollercoaster will settle down. Summer for me is always a bit wierd. Fall is on the horizon and pretty soon our Eagles and Steelers will be at it again. Take it one day at a time girlfriend. All will be well. Much love and blessings to you and your family. Kiss the grandbaby.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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That can't be fun. It seems overwhelming at times. But you've been through much more and can handle anything that comes your way. You are a woman of remarkable strength. I'm glad your son has returned to playing football. He's good at it. Your daughter will be a great nurse. She can practice on you the next couple of weeks. Let the kids take care of you. Get some rest. 
Try not to worry about the little things. It will only make your recovery harder. Who cares if there are dishes in the sink? The kids can do them. 