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Hello, So I am the child of an alcoholic. My father was a functioning alcoholic, up until my grandma passed away when I was 14. For the next five years he lost multiple jobs, friends, ect. I've tried everyway possible to help him, through support, family, and rehab. Finally, I just ended a relationship with him. I haven't talked to him for about three years. I always heard from people I should attend Al-anon. My response was I'm not the one with the problem, why waste my time? I'm in the place in my life when I want to settle down and get married. I have begun to realize my childhood has seriously affected me emotionally. I just broke up with a great guy who I was going to marry for no good reason. I've spent the last couple weeks soul searching. I told him he was the screwed up one and he needed to seek help, when in honestness its me. So, I am going to attend my first Al-anon meeting tonight. I am hoping to realize I'm not alone and I can have a normal, happy life one day.
No you are not alone. The disease of alcoholism stays with us into adulthood. I am a ACOA. I went into my marriage and into my children with the dyfunction. . We tend to repeat the patterns if we don't get help or get into a 12th step program. Hope the meeting goes well. They tell us to go to at least 6 meetings before making up our minds.
Congratulations, you will not regret your decision. Several things you will find out tonight. The program is for you, and shows you how to take care of yourself first in mind, body, and spirit. You will be with people just as yourself who have walked in your shoes. You will find a fellowship of people who care and accept you as you are, and will never judge you.
In Al-Anon there is no graduation, so please contine to going back each week. Make it a regular part of your life. You have taken the first step in a program that has helped and changed thousands of lives world wide for almost 60 years.
Keep coming back to this board, and let us know how your first face to face meeting went.
welcome & good for you for going to a meeting tonight. Pick up pamphlets & read them, I suggest 12 steps for adult children (great book) it will help you with your unique issues and know that you are not alone.
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
You are in the right place. Well done that you have come to that place of acceptance. You do need help and support and you have been affected by A just as we all have and you are sick just as we are because of the effects of the A's in our lives.
You will get help. You will get better. You will find yourself and heal and gradually you will become the person you want to be and find that you have a life after the A through working the program, using the literature, accepting the support and family of Al-anon in your life and this family will always be here to listen and share and comfort you.
Just keep coming back and read read read...talk talk talk....listen listen listen.
I am hoping that you found comfort in your first face to face meeting, and I am looking forward to hearing about that encounter.
Suzannah
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Out of the ruin of my past I have found the fortress of myself and I know how to defend it.
Strive for WISDOM; Seek SERENITY; NEVER compromise your INTEGRITY.
You have come to the right place and I hope that you come back and share your 1st meeting and if you seen or felt anything from it... I know My 1st one was scary, but I was not completely convinced either that I was were I needed to be, but I hung in and gave the warranrted "At Least 6 Meeting" Before I desided, and now it has been a life changing experience...
I to am a Daughter of an alcoholic, I just lost my AFather last Thanksgiving to the disease of alcohol, and I fight my childhood all the time, but al-anon, & ACOA has taught me so much that It keeps me coming back for more Learning, more compassion, more love then I have ever had in my life...
Hope to learn more about you, and keep coming back and sharing, always nice to have a NEWBIE floatin around ;)
