News in... Arggggg - Al-Anon Family Group

Jozie · ~*Service Worker*~

News in... Arggggg

kitty · ~*Service Worker*~

yes, that really does seem like a mess! Not much u can do about it though, focus on YOU and what can u do to empower yourself today/now. I am glad u came here & got it off ur chest ((((((((((( jozie )))))))))))

ally · ~*Service Worker*~

Hey

There is a word i'm thinking of here, i'm sure it's called "Projecting"! You cannot project he will miss the next court date! You have no idea where he will be tomorrow or what he will be doing! But right now all your doing is giving yourself a hernia! TRY and let the reigns go a tiny wee bit! We've all been there, had our life distrubted to do with the A! And YES it's ends up us that suffer and not them!

Think of your serenity! Ok so he got bailed! At the end of the day and i KNOW it's so easy to say, but what he does is NOT within your control! NO matter how much it hurts or frustrates us we cannot change that! Look after the people who need you right now and that includes yourself!

It's funny how the A always carries on as we ALLOW ourselves to be tied in knots, don't you think!!!

Relax, just take it a step at a time, and come here and YELL!!!!!!!

Ally biggrin

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha Jozie...Isn't that part of the "cunning, powerful and baffling" character of the
disease.   However if you stand back 10 or 12 feet from the picture and look at it
from the angle of holding the alcoholic responsible...everyone can just stop and
permit him the consequences of his choices.   It's not their or anyone elses fault...
it's his responsibility.   Tell them where he can be picked up on warrant and others
not to sign for him.   As long as others will step in for him he will continue to do
what he is doing getting the same results.   How many people are being negatively
affected by his drinking now?   Let him go and let God and the Judge have him.

(((((hugs))))) smile

Jozie · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks all...

And Jerry Yes you are right, I know I have to remain out of HP's way and on my own path, that is why I didn't join the Circus at the court house, I truly believe he needs to be held accountable, and I have told them "ALL" to back away... Everyone did but ASister, & Now she is Pulling Mom back and forth like a Yo Yo... I know AGAIN Out of my Hands, but it still rattles the nerves more then I care to admit... Plus I am on a Chocolate High I think and that always makes me feel horrible but for some reason I still do it to myself...

I love the support and kindness of this place, I love that some of you "Get ME" and Know were I am coming from and I am slow excepting that It is OK to be ME... Just for ME... Which is something I can't say I have done Well with, but I haven't given up... ;P

Ally... I am done with his knots, I am handing them back and letting his HP take care of him, and I am also imforming my ASister & Momma that i know longer care to hear about ANY of ABrothers problems, don't want to know court dates and drama days, keep them to yourselves... I need some boundry's to keep whats left of my sanity... And that my friends is VERY LITTLE :)

Thanks again... Love & Prayers

Jozie

Christy · ~*Service Worker*~

How can the police threaten to throw anyone in jail for not getting a grown man to court? What would be the charge? Because you bail someone out doesn't make you responsible for them. That's ridiculous and most likely untrue. That wouldn't fly with me at all. They want him court so they can collect the $$$.
I hate that type of manipulation.

As far as your brother, I absolutely think you are doing the right thing in asking others not to tell you what's happening. Otherwise you wind up where you are right now..
And yes, I would like a new house and a new deck while your spittin nails ..lol

Take care
Christy

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