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So bf has an addict brother (oxycotton) who just got kicked out of the marines (in basic) and is now coming to live with him and his dad and step mom. He says... first thing I need to do when he gets there is take his phone... I talk to him about detaching and alanon and hope I can get him to go but if not I have to detach myself from the situation. It's hard for me to watch people make the mistakes I did and refuse to believe that they really can't save someone from themselves. I hope I am able to detach and he figures out quickly that there's nothing he can do.
I have tried soooo many times to get my sister to Alanon my head spins. Talk about the definition of insanity! I have now given up on that idea. All I can do is set the example and hope the seed will get planted. The rest is up to her. Hopefully the great example you've set on how beneficial Alanon has been in your life will make your boyfriend sit up and take notice. He has lots to learn from you. I know how hard it is to detach, but you've done this before. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
Yeah its hard. But everyone has their own journey and their own "aha!" moment (and their own HP). U gotta be on your knees to soar. They are not on their knees yet. Thats all. J.
This is a tough one. I have also invited a family member to meetings. Once. Attraction not promotion. Does your BF ever mention moving out of that household? If the brother is still using - things will become very tense very soon. This is the way of the addict.
Hello! I have just washed my hands with my A Hubby's brother. My brother in law is a drug addict who has substance indused physcosis. For the first time in 10 years, I tried to help him. Well, after alot (more than i intended) of my energy being used up on him, last night I detached from the whole situation. He's on his own and hopefully my A Hubby will agree. Good Luck,
I definitely had tremendous issues with the ex A's family of orgin. The issue was of course my desire to please and fix them. Whatever I did was not viewed as good enough so I had to detach long and hard.
