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gknee


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Here's something positive:
If I hadn't been working my program and just getting on with my day--despite what my AH was doing- this is what I would have missed out on:
1) a 3 mile run
2) a 4th of july  parade with my kids and some old friends
3) a visit with some former neighbors
4) a wonderful picnic at my aunt's with my cousins and my kids featuring a pontoon ride and the kids tubing behind the boat.
5) Fireworks at the lakefront with friends

AH was nowhere to be found all day-using and abusing. He is passed out in bed now. I am so grateful that my life is not his. what a crappy way to live (or let life pass you by).

thanks for all I have learned over the years from alanon and MIP- I can have fun even if my marriage sucks and my husband is an addict.


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Great way to work your program gknee! I'm so glad that your not sitting at home worrying about the alcoholic/addict in your life. It makes life so much more pleasant doesn't it? To take your cue, here's what I would have missed out on today if I had been focused on my alcoholic instead of me.

1. encouragement from this site

2. cooking hot dogs out on the grill with my daughter.

3. ENJOYED a Happy 4th of July call from a friend.

4. setting off firecrackers with my mother and my daughter, smoke bombs, sparklers, spinners, and other "small" stuff.

5. Watching our small town's fireworks display.

6. Having Ice Cream afterwards with my daughter.

My alcoholic, whom I'm seperated from and will soon be going through a divorce with wanted me to come over and end our relationship with a bang (if you know what I mean) I respectfully declined and turned off my cell phone. No more fireworks for he and I. lol

Thanks for the reminders gknee,

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AH was nowhere to be found all day-using and abusing. He is passed out in bed now. I am so grateful that my life is not his. what a crappy way to live (or let life pass you by).

thanks for all I have learned over the years from alanon and MIP- I can have fun even if my marriage sucks and my husband is an addict.





##### Good for YOU!!! taking care of you....

isn't it sad to be married, supposedly pulling the same yoke and we had to live separate lives??? like i was "single", married to my ex's but married..........i lived like a single lady, taking care of me, doing fun things w/family or myself and yet i was not "available" for a HEALTHY guy.....so i just had to take care of me and one day i woke up and said  "this STINKS.......i am married, but w/no partner"..........i told him  "recovery or i am gone"...........he let me go..........i miss the good in him, but not the  "married but single" life style...........if i am married i want to be married...sharing....evenly yoked.....mutual being there for each other...mutual love and respect and caring and sharing..................otherwise, i may as well be single.......which now i am.........i don't miss the "passed out" sessions, missing movies b/c he's "zoned out"....or having to leave a restaurant b/c he is acting so bad, we gotta leave..............OR having to call family and friends to "have some clean fun"....................nawww i don't miss it........

i like your spunk and attitude..........keep coming back ...this really works...........life sucked for me b4 recovery..........now it is ok, getting better within me all the time...........


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Karilynn


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(((Gknee))),

Glad you had a great day.  I was at work all day, but I'm glad I have a job to go to.  I could hear the air show overhead.  They were practicing the other day I was able to go for a walk and watch them from my hill.  Pretty cool!  The fireworks started too late for me.  Pipers and I were snuggled in bed when they started to go off.  This was the first time she was startled by them!  This is life on life's terms.  Enjoy the rest of the weekend.  Love and blessings to you and your family.

Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty relax.gif

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The courage to change what we can, awesome! I am admiring your willingness and feel grateful for what HP accomplished through you on this day. Your choices brought you Light, instead of heavy angst. Thank you for the reminder. (((hugs)))

-- Edited by glad lee on Sunday 5th of July 2009 09:09:52 AM

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