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God- I hate 3 day holiday weekends!!! AH gets in a mood and it just keeps on giving.
Here's the scenario today. AH leaves the house around 4- drops 16 y/o at work and then disappears. I hang out for a while , then head to grocery store to prep for planned picnics tomorrow (which I am beginning to believe we will not all be attending) Anyway-- on the way home, I decide to drive past the park where AH drinks and pouts. Sure enough- there he is in all his glory. He screams at me "AA ruined my life. All I want to do is drink a bottle of wine with you and f--k but NO we can't do that anymore because I'm an alcoholic"
I'm just thinking-- in any way is this the way you talk to a woman you want to seduce?
I'm also thinking "so, you're telling me that the only why you can be intimate with me is if you are high and drunk?" I guess I no longer find that acceptable.
by the way- we have been married for almost 19 years and have 2 teenage kids.
I haven't been on here for a while. I think Alanon is calling me home again.
Peace all- Jeanne
-- Edited by debilyn on Friday 3rd of July 2009 11:18:11 PM
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In the long run the pessimist may be proved right, but the optimist has a better time on the trip.- Daniel L. Reardon
hi, Im fairly new here, yes- sounds like you should come back! I've often said to some of my friends, that this would be easier if alcohol were illegal- I wouldve been gone a long time ago. Not sure that should really matter though to tell you the truth. I'm new to all of this, so I may not give best advice or make much sense. My AH gave up on me while drinking along time ago- I guess the repeatedly saying no to him finally got through. I hate that too- weve been married for going on 15 years and I would love nothing more than to love him entirely and not have any baggage with him. But- just like your AH- mine chooses to drink every night becasue that what he WANTS to do. So- I am learning to focus on me and my girls- which I have to say, feels nice for a change. Welcome back- best wishes for tomorrow!
Yes the program is calling you back. Come home as quickly as you can. It seems that his spiritual, mental, emotional and physical growth has been stunted by booze. You've got 19 years on him now. I bet you'd feel more at home at a face to face meeting. Come home!!
i did not want intimacy w/my ex AH when he was drinking..........it was a turn off.........he kinda slowed down on it b/c he knew i would not want him if he was drinkng and he was NICE to me.......i just got turned off by the booze....YUCK.....i am sooo grateful recovery has made me love myself and demand a better life that that................NO alkies need apply here!!!! NOT interested.........
Wish I had magic words to take away your sadness. What I can offer is how very proud I am of you for going on with preperations for your days picnic. It doesn't matter who is in attendance. What matters is you are not staying home and feeling sorry for yourself.
I've heard here it's always good to have a plan B.
