my first f2f - Al-Anon Family Group

lam0204 · Member

my first f2f

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha Lam!!

Good job...Get in and stay in. You will have a life beyond your expectations.

You have learned that it isn't about the alcoholic being sober...big lesson.

(((((hugs))))) smile

shellyj123 · ~*Service Worker*~

Congrats Iam!!! Way to focus and take care of you!

I remember my first F2F. I sat in the parking lot for what seemed like an eternity before mustering up the nerve to go in.......

Here I am almost 18 yrs later, starting allll over again, I think this time I'll stay:)

I look forward to those meetings more and more every week and love the people there like family...........you will too.........

Thanks for sharing and keep coming back.........it truly does Work if you work it!!

Overcome · Senior Member

I have a kinda funny story to tell on my first f2f meeting. I had just gone through my second divorce from an alcoholic husband and a lady that was working for me said that I could benefit from a 12-step program. Well she and her "friend" were going to Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings and invited me along (I am not an acoa), so I decided why not.

I found out later that this lady was a lesbian and her "friend" was her partner, and since I don't necessarily condone this behavior, I wasn't prejudjuce either and agreed again to go. It was a rather unconfortable ride with them talking about their relationship and politics concerning the homosexual lifestyle. But I will be forever grateful to them for getting me to my first f2f meeting.

Once at the AcoA meeting, I immediately felt at home, having grown up in a dysfunctional household, I still felt like I fit in, altough my parents didn't drink. I started dating a true ACA and drug him along with me. Not to long after this I also started going to a Codependents 12-step meeting and realized I needed to be in a different 12-step program from my boyfriend.

So after a year in ACOA, I walked confidently into my first al-anon meeting. I was a little cocky, thinking that I already knew how the program ran, I walked up to a lady after the meeting, whose story I could relate to, and asked her to be my sponsor that first night. Boy was I brazen! Between her and another lady in the program, they took my ego down a peg or too, where it needed to be and I started working the steps.

I have never looked back, or regretted my first encounter with 12-step programs. It has given me a freedom that I never thought I would have and a feeling of self-worth that was never mine before, despite the ego.

Keep coming back to this program and it will keep feeding you the steps, slogans, and e,s, & h you need. I'm glad you see the necessity of working on yourself. That's what I saw in myself when I got into my first 12 step program some 18 years ago, that I had two failed marriages that dealt with the disease of alcoholism, maybe I needed to look at me!

Thanks for letting me share my story with you.

Take what you like and leave the rest.

Overcome

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