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I did not do all the things on my "to do" list and Just for that day, I didn't worry about it, I just did "the next right thing" One of the things that I added to my 'to do' list was taking my mom to another Assisted Living Facility (this makes the second one we've visited). She really liked it and wanted to move in!
Just for that one day I chose to be happy, it wasn't an easy choice because I was fighting being sad that our living situation was going to change once again. But Just for that one day I did my best to chose Happiness.
Just for that one day, things did not change for the relationship between my husband and I . He tried a new tactic of calling my 12 year old daughter and going through her to find things out about me. I was ticked and told him so. I told him not to go through my daughter (not his child) to get to me again. And I told my daughter not to answer any phone calls from him.
Just for that one day I read the newspaper and all the sad news about Michael Jackson and Farah Faucett. Also the daily happenings in Kansas City.
Just for yesterday I took my mom to see her friend, that had lost her husband about six months ago. It helped to cheer them both up and they didn't know I was doing it as a "Just for Today" project, so I guess it counts in the realm of "doing somebody a good turn".
I must say that I didn't get to my dishes and laundry, but that is ok too. I can do them today. Just for today. I think I did a pretty good job on not allowing it to show when my feelings were hurt yesterday when my husband tried to once again get something for nothing by asking for things that weren't his to ask for, "since we were moving anyway and wouldn't need them". I just set my boundary and said "NO" they belong to mom, her money paid for them.
I took a shower yesterday morning and cleaned up for the visit to the Assisted Living Facility. I was agreeable, courteous, non-criticizing. I feel like I did pretty well on the non-fault finding and tried not to change anybody but myself.
Just for yesterday I had a program, a to-do list that I followed, but I didn't follow it so rigidly that I felt encumbered by it.
One thing that I did not accomplish yesterday was going to my father's gravesite and spending a half-hour to relax. I think I will make that as one of my goals today.
Just for yesterday I was unafraid as I could be with all the changes that were looming ahead of me. I must admit fear creeped in a couple of times. I was not afraid to enjoy what was beautiful and enjoyed the beautiful day for what it was.
Now for for Today I think I will concentrate on just one aspect of this poem: Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for 12 hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.
Good luck to all of you in living Just for Today!
Love in Recovery, Overcome
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Thanks for sharing OC. I've listened to you in the chat room sharing about your mom and I'm encouraged to see the steps you're taking for her and you. I'm VERY encouraged that she actually liked one of the facilities. The seniors usually don't like any of them because they're fighting the change of moving, etc. One of my ex-Abf's businesses is an estate management company. So I've had an opportunity to work with a lot of elderly and their family as they transition into a new phase of their lives. I've seen how dificult it is on everyone, not just the senior. I applaud you for taking care of your mom when she needs you most and helping to insure her safety and well being.
I really liked "I can do something for 12 hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime." Somehow, when you break it down like that, it's doable.
Redfred
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VERY good job at "taking life in segments"....if i had to do life all at once, i would be "flat lined", but i can do it "just for today" and/or "one day at a time" sometimes "one task at a time"..
breaking stuff up, staying in the present helps me not feel over whelmed......i think you did great.....peace
