Was woke up the night before last at 4am by an outraged wife!  To make a long story short, one of my internet friends who has been emailing/texting me has a wife!  Now I had asked him several times and he swore NO NO NO.......and I had no reason whatsoever not to believe him, other than this little feeling that something was off.  I had even checked out his criminal history and marriage/divorce online covering all bases I thought.
After the wife called, I eventually picked up and listened to this woman scream at me "i am so and so's wife and why are you F#$@ing my husband?"  Needless to say I was in shock and hung up.  I then got a text that simply said "OLD S#@T" and was enranged.  I texted the number back and advised her to grow up that I had no idea he was married and could prove that and he had lied to me for months now.  (she actually saw his myspace page where he had listed he was single-which was what started her calling at 4am.  She asked me to please talk to her and I told her to call me back.
I told her first off I am NOT OLD!!!LMAO, and that I obviously must look good as her 35 yr old husband was txting me all night long (that old part really upset me) and then proceeded to answer all her questions, and even went so far as to forward her every text I had from him-including the ones he sent me on his way to work that night-that of course he lied about:)
To make a long story short.....the old me would have gotten out of bed and driven my OLD A$$ over to WV and went looking for her after the OLD comment.  The me who is progressing, layed there and thought about the situation and how I could help her by answering her questions (something I never had done for me when my EXAH cheated.
I found compassion for a woman who woke up both me and my son at 4AM screaming obsenities at me.
I questioned all day the next day, on the verge of tears for the OLD remark)I've never been called old before and struggle and fight to keep up my physical apprearance and have always been told I look great for my age-which is 41) I kept wondering what lesson HP wanted me to learn in all of this and why was I getting knocked back down again everytime I struggled to get up....I realized the lesson was I need to learn to trust myself......I had a feeling that something was off and I left it go as I had no basis other than my gut.  I was determined to not not trust this man because of my past and be fair to him.  What I didn't do was trust myself......and I need to learn to do that.  I am not perfect by no means, but I am capable of making decisions and trusting that I am doing the right thing.  Everything I do is NOT wrong!  It's time to renew that confidence and faith in myself again that A took away from me.......and I plan to start doing that TODAY,
Thanks for letting me share........
more to come:)
Shelly