I'm a bit "burned out" - Al-Anon Family Group

rosielightshines · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm a bit "burned out"

Overcome · Senior Member

rosielightshines wrote:

So!! Does one who separated herself from all the people who won't help themselves fit in this al-anon group anymore????? I was just curious..

You betcha! We need to continue to immerse ourselves in the al-anon program to follow that wonderful yellow brick road called Recovery! Once we stray from it we find ourselves in the evil dark forest of doubt, or we fall asleep in the happy land of poppy's called denial.
I know I have been there. I started working the program in 1991 after two failed A marriages and got into the program for me. The only A I had in my life was my boss and my new father-in-law. Once my third marriage hit the rocks and I had no more alkies in my life I strayed from the program. I met another alcoholic and started dating him for some odd reason (forgot my program) and ended up marrying him after he promised to quit drinking. He kept his promise, he hasn't drank for 3 years, but he is one miserable dry drunk to live with.
Now I go to al-anon for me and not because of the alkies in my life. It is a program for me and I am doing my 4th step over again, too, or should I say I'm finishing it this time. I started it some 15 years ago and never finished it, was too much of a perfectionist I guess.
I love your posts and can tell you're really working your program, keep up the good work and keep posting! But don't burn yourself out, take time for you.

Overcome (formerly Java)

-- Edited by Overcome on Monday 22nd of June 2009 11:12:56 PM

-- Edited by Overcome on Monday 22nd of June 2009 11:14:04 PM

kitty · ~*Service Worker*~

I think it's a necessity - to seperate ourselves. I mean, it makes it easier for us to deal with, right. Here, we are trying to better ourselves. But "out there" lots of ppl have no interest in therapy or self analysis - it is painful after all. A lot of people are content to just stay the way they are with no growth.

RLS... I found that this heavy emotional work is exhausting and sleeping extra was something I had to do. If some days you need a breather, take it. The program will still be here & if ur not working through some huge issue or unresolved emotion, it doesnt mean u still dont have the program. It just ebbs & flows like anything else.

Good for yuou for setting boundaries & sticking to them boundarying out toxic people. I had to do that too for a while. Now that I'm stronger & have detachment, I can be around those folks & they dont "get to me". I am no longer so reactionary but that took time & solid boundaries.

Take care of YOU.

Temple · ~*Service Worker*~

Rosie,
Please tell me that was a rhetorical question. Of course you belong here. And who better than someone who is crystal clear on what it takes to tell us, until ALL of us hear it and follow it--go to meetings, get a sponsor, work the steps, focus on yourownself, detach. And implied: separate if you need to.
I loved the "4th step is a house-leveler." LOL Probably not so funny when it is your house being leveled.
Something you said reminded me of a thought I had years ago: What is wrong with me that I am sick with someone else's disease?"
I'm not talking about you. You had so much of other people's stuff to get over that I am amazed you have gotten where you are in only one lifetime.
(((((({{{{{{{{{Rosie of the Shining Lights}}}}}})))))))

Hugs and I hope you listened to good advice and are taking naps.
Temple

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