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In the last week I have found moments of serenity which I haven't really had much lately! I have been stressing out of everything up until the last few days. My life is still crazy, though. In the past two months my husband has been dealing with the loss of his brother as I mentioned before. Right now we have a slew of videos that he(my bro in law) had when he died that are sitting in my livingroom--on the couch & in the middle of the floor like a huge elephant! I am very frustrated as I have plenty of stuff of my own(of course). Since moving back in, I have acquired more stuff & I have not been able to sort through or get rid of anything! This is all the clutter in my life which represents the clutter in my mind! But...there is good news! I am letting go of my personal issues that hold me back from my serenity! I am serene at least some of the day each day. I feel especially better when I sit down at this computer & visit with all of you. This is great because even though I can't see all of you, you are with me on this wonderful site! Here is a smile for all of you! Kathleen
it's so wonderful to hear that u are getting moments of serenity -- with parctise you can make them longer & longer periods of time.
A lot of members would tell me things like - tackle ur project for fifteen minutes & then walk away. That way u can get to the elephant... think about it u cant move a mountain but u can move a pebble at a time & eventually the mountain is moved. Same idea. I also used to make lists, & break the tasks into the smallest incriminets... that way I was figuring out the steps it took to accomplish this bigger job but I got the reward of taking things off of the list & getting it done, little by little, so I could see my own progress & I felt empowered during that time. (instead of thinking - see how much more I need to do)
Keep working it!
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
when i have big project i used to think "oh i gotta get it all done now"...now i can do in pieces and not feel bad...just according to my limits..like today...bad back....short posts...1 piece at a time....easy does it.....
I'm 2 and a half years out of a relationship and I am only beginning now to sort through the clutter. I hope your husband finds a place for his brother's videos. I don't doubt letting go of them is difficult. I try to declutter an hour a day. That is about my limit at the moment. I'm making significant dents in a huge mess.
