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here i sit he asked for a ride from me and i said no so he took his truck with very little gas he tried calling his connection but got no answer - decided to drive over there and look for his dealer
ohhhh shaking head. Would you like help finding a meeting? I tell ya that would be so much help!
There will be one here soon in the chat room!
Do you have a sponsor?
I tell ya, if you can't get to a meeting what helped me was to dive into the book,"Getting Them Sober."
Or put in a movie, do dishes, call someone and ask how they are.
What can you do for you to make you feel better?
We have a chat room you could go into that is great! It will take your mind away!!
Hugs,debilyn
Ditto AND may I add....when I am POWERLESS, i just GIVE IT OVER.....I let it go....I cannot stop him...cannot cure him...cannot control him...i did not cause him.....I know its the "3 C's" but I added the "can't stop" for a reason.....It means I stop and take care of me.......There are chat meets here ea. night..I have gone...They are good...I would get into meet.....I would do whatever it took to get focus off this boyfriend who doesn't care enough about himself to get into recovery..>I would spend my precious time on ME..and what meets MY needs...
That's a pretty good and basic detachment I'd say. Was that the first time you did the "no is a complete sentence" tool? I learned to do that to and then after wards quickly grabbed my HP so that my HP could have my alcoholic/addict wife in one hand and put the other hand over my mouth.
so difficult for you, it brings me back to the time, that I just sat there shaking when my brother slipped out of my grasp, it took me a while to realise that I was not in control of his life, I send you prayers.
he wasnt out late - just that when he did return it hurt our relationship. I didnt want to touch/hug him for the remainder of the night. Im off now to the gym (after only a few hrs sleep) while he stays in bed and gets his rest. So ya it affects me not only mentally but physically too.
he really is a nice guy - even high - its just the "smoking pot" that I dont like I push him away when he's high even though his personality stays the same
he really is a nice guy - even high - its just the "smoking pot" that I dont like I push him away when he's high even though his personality stays the same
"just smoking pot"....My brother started "just smoking pot" then it turned to speed and downers AND booze AND LSD a couple/few times.......
I hope. NO!! I PRAY you work on you and find out WHY (via the steps) you would "settle" for a guy who is doing drugs... I "settled" for alkies b/c it was the only life (dysfunction-substance abuse) I knew....program straightened me out ....
Now you couldn't pay me to stay or be w/someone who is a cheater......or beater.....and YES, a substance abuser......
It won't work w/out recovery....Its only gonna get worse...."pot" does mess w/their heads.....
I've certainly been there. I know that I worried myself sick in such situations. Detaching was really so key for me. I had to learn how to do it practice it then practice it some more.
