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I always get annoyed when Mom is drunk tho it's useless to feel that way since it doesn't change anything and just ruins things for me...... it's an automatic reaction tho. i'm 22. i should just suck it up and deal w/it not constantly complain about it. it'd be like complaining about it raining when it does i have as much control over it raining as i do on my parents drinking. blahhhh tho i know that it doesnt change anything bc i can say it but i dont necessarily believe it
it's an automatic reaction tho. i'm 22. i should just suck it up and deal w/it not constantly complain about it. it'd be like complaining about it raining when it does i have as much control over it raining as i do on my parents drinking. blahhhh tho i know that it doesnt change anything bc i can say it but i dont necessarily believe it
######The GOOD part is that you KNOW...at 22 that is very astute.....NOW comes the PRACTICING it...you got the facts, now lets put em in action, PRACTICING that great freeing action----------DETACH
oh yea!! Its normal and OK to feel the feelings of anger, however, when I do, I just let them pass through me (feelings) after I have identified the source
I think anger in this case and I would feel it too, is that "yea, I am mad" b/c she puts her drinking b4 her loved ones.....anger over an expectation that you deserve, yea, but are not gonna get....My mom drank her self to death...her bottle meant more to her than turning in the child molester husband/father she had over to the authorities....
(((((Lanchas))))) Sometimes knowing it doesn't help things HUH? I remember a Alateen Conference I was at once when I was walking around "hang dogging it" and all "pouty and whiney" when one of the Alateens zeroed in on me and did a temporary, fast time, sponsorship thing on me. She asked me why I was looking and acting so depressed and I decided to tell her because she was right there, we're in the same program and I felt mutual trust. After I told her all the outside excuses why I wasn't happy she looked at me and said, "Don't you know Jerry F? Happiness is an inside job." A half hour later she wove me a friendship bracelete and I had already recovered into gratitude.
You got any Al-Anon Family you can call and have "happy time" with? You got phone numbers?
It's kind if like that annoying mosquito that keeps coming around at you. The more you swat at it, the more it keeps coming back. I guess all we can do is to keep applying extra strength protection to keep from getting bit. Hang in there. It does get better. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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