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I have not been able to post anything here as I can't get my head around where I am!! L O L! Trying to get a perspective on my life without the AH living with me at the moment. There is an element of limbo, like (what's going to happen to me?) But yeah, definately the pictures getting clearer. All my friends say I look so good, and that's not even with make-up! It's the real me bubbling up with God popping the cork! Actually, I don't have to worry about what's going to happen to me as God is handling all my affairs ! He is in charge now and the alcoholic is left to his own devices while I smell flowers and other such niceties. Not so long ago I had guilt pangs about what was going to happen to him and felt responsible. But after spending some time together on an outing he didn't talk but about 3 times in 3 hours! I thought how much I have been making this happen and I have been "having a relationship with myself" and filling in all those silent aaaaggghh gaps! In those silent gaps now are just silence and it's like.....(think bubble)"well umm what's going on here then. You been married for 15 years and you got nuthing to talk about???" That's what I am noticing....when I see him, if I don't make it happen it doesn't happen. And now that I don't, it doesn't! LOL. Anyway, have invited him to join me on an a camp combined with AA that is very relaxed and he has said he will consider it. I am doing it out of compassion, just to give him a chance to perhaps meet some people. But I'm definately over fixing him now. He is on his own. It's so wonderful being so free and having myself to my little ole self! You know what? I DO HAVE A LIFE AFTER ALL!!! So it's all good. My alanon friends are so understanding there is nothing like this program anywhere! If you are a newbie, just keep coming back! God bless, and hugs, Silverbrumby
I can identify. Seems like I am the only one who even wants a relationship of any kind. I invite him over especially when our grown sons are around. He never invites me anywhere. Excludes me as a matter of fact. I know I am doing better thanks to the encourage of Alanon friends. I too invite my AHsober to AA/Alanon related events. Can't do him any harm.
