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Found out today that EXABF is regularly emaling one of the friends on his page. Was told that through a good friend who is actually a friend of the woman he has been emailing. My friend who I havn't spoken to in ages attempted to add my ex to her page (not knowing who he was she assured me and I do believe her) He wrote back and told her he was my ex and that even though I am soooooooo done with him, he didn't want to disrespect me by adding her as a friend, BUT she was free to email him anytime she wanted, then went on to tell her he has been emailing another girl on my firends page, named M on a regular basis??? WTF??? Don't disrespect me where I might see it but it's ok to sneak behind my back and email a friend of mine albiet not close but still? It hurts I won't lie, but shows true colors. The a@@ kicker being that he wrote that I was "soooo done with him" when he was the one who ended it everytime! That of course made me SUPER curious and I looked at his page. Nothing there-no dramas........Ya know of course I checked her's too-all her's said was Waiting for the moment. I'm pretty much ok with it all though, really sad though, disappointed in myself too, but hanging in there. One of his coworkers came in today too and told me "you need to tell your man to quit giving away furniture" I told him that he wasn't my man anymore thank God, and he replied "short lived romance huh?" I just smiled...Not sure why his coworker was unaware-Not my business I guess.... So I'm hangin in there, a little sad that he is moving right along that quickly after what I thought we had but can't do anything about that either I guess.......powerless-that's me! powerless and a big PUTZ! Any ESH would be appreciated. thanks for listening shelly
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
So I'm hangin in there, a little sad that he is moving right along that quickly after what I thought we had but can't do anything about that either I guess.......powerless-that's me! powerless and a big PUTZ! Any ESH would be appreciated. thanks for listening shelly
Some people are like flys....they go from one cookie to the next....no cares...No discrimination....They are not facing what happened and what lessons do they need to learn from the last failed romance.....
POWERLESS......I can only focus on ME........
and you are not a PUTZ....You are here...working on you...Learning as you go...That is not a PUTZ.....That is someone who is progressing towards good mental health
So ease up on yourself, LOL...We all have stuff to learn...
it seems to me that under the dictionary version of "EXABF", it would indicate 'past tense', yet you seem to be harboring feelings/involvment/ownership of the relationship as if it is still very much a current relationship....
in the immortal words of my wise old sponsor - "it is neither good, nor bad, it simply IS"
The "WHAT" of your situation is that you are no longer in a relationship with him, and he (and you) are free to go about your business, date others, and whatever else is associated with that. Going back to his blog/page, time and time again, is seriously getting in the way of any recovery that you might otherwise be making....
I'd encourage you to try to do things for Shelly going forward, and stop focusing on what he is or is not doing.... it really IS sucking the life out of you, and your recovery...
Take care Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
