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Jennifer was having vision problems in her left eye. This has been going on for about 1 month; she gets migraines and she thought she was trying to get a migraine headache.
She went to eye doctor today and upon exam on the eye, he told her that she has had an "eye stroke". She has lost about 70% vision in her left eye.
Please pray for her. I am scared to death and do not know what to do. Her divorce will be final in about 3 weeks and then will be without medical coverage!!! Surely no judge will finalize a divorce under these circumstances.
She is at a good friends house right now and this gentleman is completely taken her under his wing. These are true saints on this earth. She is about 2 hours west of me. I will go to her tomorrow. Please pray for us.
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Clara
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I am adding you and your daughter to my "need prayers" tonight....
I am sooo sorry time to "lawyer up" and see what her rights are...If they had no children, I am not sure what can be done, but for SURE there has to be some help for her..If she is indigent there are fed. funded state medical clinics that "take over" folks who are indigent...social services et al.....
Y'all are in my prayers. You may want to look into purchasing COBRA after she is off of her husbands insurance. Maybe the judge will make him pay the premium or at least half of it. It's important to make sure she doesn't have a lapse between coverage or the pre existing issues will not be covered and she will have to wait out the waiting period while still paying a costly premium. Good Luck!
Sorry to hear this Clara. I strongly suggest she see a vascular specialist while she still has insurance. There's is much that can be associated with ischemic accidents no matter where they occur.
I would guess unless she argues for some money or property in the divorce it will go forward. The Judge won't do a lawyers job. If she won't contest anything he has no reason not to grant it.
Christy
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The internet must have tons of sites describing the condition and possible solutions to it. I hope and pray she finds workable solutions. (((((hugs)))))
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
oh nooooo. How scarey. I am sure you are so upset.
As far as the judge... don't bet on it. I am sure it all has to be done legally. Something probably needs to be filed to request a trial at a later date or?
You guys may need to contact an attorney and ask the to take care of it.
oh geez. hugs, be careful if you are driving there. love,debilyn who thinks about you two all the time.
Thanks everyone for your support. It is 1:30 a.m. and I cannot sleep a wink!!! If she magages to get a doctor appointment on Thursday, I will wait to go see her on Friday. Since it is a 2 hour drive to her town, and if she manages to get an appointment, it will take up most of her day. But I will go to her either on Thursday or Friday.
My thoughts are going crazy!!! What if she can no longer work. What if she will not be able to drive? What if, what if, what if. I know i am just projecting my worries, but it is my daughter. And she is scared to death right now. And of course am I; that is why I am still awak at 1:30 a.m.
Several years ago, she worked with this wonderful lady. She was old enough to be Jenn's grandmother. Anyway, Jenn and her soon to be ex became close friends with the lady and her husband. They went to dinner together and just became friends with them. Anyway, this lady passed away several years ago. They kept in touch with the lady's husband. This is the gentleman who has taken jenn under his wing. He is a true saint. He told me over the phone when Jenn was telling me about the news of her stroke, that when we come down, he has a spare bedroom for us anytime.
He told me that his wife thought so much of Jenn, that if he did not help her, his wife would shoot him from Heaven. He lost a son to drug addiction years ago and i think this is his way or redeeming his guilt over that.
So, I give up on sleeping tonight. Here I am spilling my heart and soul to total strangers; although I feel that I know each and everyone of you.
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Clara
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So sorry to hear about Jens condition, it must be very worrying for you.
I'm not suprised your having trouble sleeping. I know its easy for me to say but have you tried handing it over to your HP? you need to get some rest so that you can make the journey over to her. It sounds like HP has given her an angel in the form of the gentleman who has taken her in.
So sorry for your daughter. Good medical care will be very important as will having a champion by her side. That's you and the gentleman who is providing care. My prayers for all.
I am so sorry about your daughter's eye problem. I know all of this seems overwhelming right now. So stop, take a deep breath and say the Serenity Prayer. Alot of these things are out of your control. Alot of things are not. How you choose to react to this is going to be critical.
Take all this energy you are putting into projecting (which always got me into HUGE trouble) and start doing something productive with it. Do some research about your daughter's condition. She's going to have lots of questions and may need you as a sounding board. You don't have to become an expert in it, but learn the basics of it so you can research it.
These things that are happening may seem to both her and you like it's all crashing down around you. It may seem like this is the end for her. But it's not. Yes, it's scary, but you'll get through it. The divorce gives her a chance at a new life, a fresh start. This eye condition may have the added benefit of getting her sober. The best thing you can do for her, and just as importantly yourself is to STAY IN THE MOMENT. Projecting only adds to the stress. You'll know more about her condition and what it means very shortly. Of course Pipers and I will keep your family in our prayers. Hold tight to Bonnie Lou and try and think positively. You'd be amazed at how powerful staying positive can be. Much love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
-- Edited by Karilynn on Thursday 4th of June 2009 07:59:27 AM
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The"what ifs" can make you crazy. When my head starts rolling into a "what if " mode, I get out my daily reader and start immersing myself in readings on fear and faith.
You and your daughter are in my thoughts.
Be safe and hang in there.
Blessings, Lou
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(((((Clara))))), so sorry to hear this news. I'm glad your daughter is in a safe place with a good person watching out for her. Please take care of yourself.......
(((Clara)))) Thoughts and prayers for you and your daughter. I think it will all work out for the best. I had a similar occurrence myself about 4 years ago, and no further damage resulted. Hope she has an A+ doctor. Take care, pw
Your post brought back many memories for me of the ex A always being in some profound crisis. Eventually I had to set a number of limits in how high I jumped. I also came to see there was never any room for me to have a crisis whatsoever in that relationship. As far as he was concerned my needs were non existent and his were paramount at all times. I also think he manufactured crises when he craved attention. I do know he had severe health issues but I had my own issues which were always secondary to his never ending, always evolving crises.
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for you and your daughter, Clara.