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Andrea12


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Hello Friends,

It has been raining for days and it has me in a sort of funk...a little depressed...I wish the sun would just come out again....

Yesterday I  was in the car with my daughter and g-daughter a song came on the radio...tears streamed down my face.....reminded me of me and hubby when I was about 17..who would have thought this is where my life would be....

Most days I can get thru without missing him to the point of tears.....however lately it's been a little tough....took my son to breakfast today before football practice....he said, mom I wish dad was here just so I could finally out eat him...my husband loved to eat..lol...  so does my son.  he ate two breakfast.......I fought back the tears and just smiled.....I miss him that is just it.....I do not miss the hell the addiction caused but I miss the man I love.....I have been having a difficult time......you would think that since it is almost 2 yrs things would get easier...however....not true.....I miss him...I miss his smell...his laugh....his hugs....I miss him everynight when I go to bed lying next to me.....Plain and simple I miss the man I love.

I have been very moody, grouchie, don't mean to be.....just can't help it when  my  heart is breaking...

My beautiful g-daugher turned one Sunday, all I could think is My God your g-dad would have loved you.....

May be the sun will be shinning tomorrow and I will feel better don't misunderstand I know I have much to be grateful for....just needed to vent......I miss him..............................
Thanks for listening....it does help.......death is so darn final..................

Andrea

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I am so sorry , Andrea, for your pain.....my 2nd A was sweet , but I had to leave him coz he was so unhealthy for ME

If something were to happen to him to this day, I would feel very bad......FEEL the feelings, remember the good.....Take care of you.....

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Andrea,

My deepest sympathy is with you. This disease makes me so sad. My heart goes out to you and your family.

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Tonya

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(((((Andrea))))

After being with him for 20 yrs. there's every reason for you to miss him.  Grief takes as long as as it takes.  And missing him?  Well, that's probably for a lifetime on some level.  I do hope the sun comes out for you, metaphorically and for real.

I kind of go through the same sometimes, only my husband is still with us, but gone (Alaska).   Especially when it's cloudy, gloomy and rainy.   The sun always makes things better for me.

My hubby was just home for a week and now gone again for a couple months.  Every time he leaves I'm fighting sadness.  I'm sure your sadness is 10 fold but I sure understand where you're coming from.

So, today I bought tickets for my son and I to see Aerosmisth and 3 Doors Down.
For me, the fastest way out of the funk is to do something fun.  It'll be the first time just the two of us have gone to a concert together.  Thank HP he will still go with me.  Not all 19 yr. old boys would rock with their Mom..lol
You want to come with us ?  biggrin


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(((Andrea)))

I am so sorry for your pain.  I truly understand the feelings you describe and the tears that come unexpectedly.

Know that you are not alone and I will remember you and your family in my prayers.

Please keep coming back and sharing.

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Andrea12


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Hey Christy,

I would love to come...Aerosmith is my favorite band!!!!!!!

Thanks for  the invite biggrin

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Oh how sudden things can change...LOL  (((((Andrea))))) smile

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(((((((((Andrea))))))))),

Hoping some hugs will help, even if they are cyber. Feel the feelings

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(((Andrea)))

Thank you for sharing.

Lou

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I am so sorry for the terrible loss your family has gone through. I can imagine the grief you must still have over your husband's untimely death. 

Maresie.

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