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I have a lone person sponsorship who gets in touch my snail mail...it is a couple of months now and I have not heard from them...do I as a sponsor write to them or just leave it until they get back in touch?
I answered the last letter they sent immediately as they were so distressed (I always respond as soon as possible anyway.)
I have offered them my email address if they would like it and told them about this site, but so far they have not taken up my email offer although they may have joined this family...???
Who knows?
Any way, you five star sponsors out there, what would you do in this situation?
The only thing I feel I can do right now is pray and hope they have found some support. No news is good news - leastways, as a mother of a serving member of HM forces this is the way I cope with no news. Do not worry until you know there is something to worry about and even then worry does not help, but I am sure you know what I mean.
Would appreciate your wise in put here.
Thank you Suzannah
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In the scenario you are describing, since it has been a couple of months, I myself would probably mail the person another letter just "checking in". Give a little update on myself and ask how the other person is doing.
I would see if I got a response to that and then go on.
I don't hound those I sponsor. If they stop contacting me, I might try a time or two to get in touch with them, then I leave it up to them.
I would write them again, just to check in. Sometimes, people forget, lose the address, etc. It might also help to check if they understood the letter--maybe they missed something, or they were confused, etc. AFter this, if nothing, then, yeah, I'd let it go.
I agree with both responses , let them know u were thinking of them and hope they are doing well . LET IT BEGIN WITH ME might work for you . sponsorship is a two way street , we too have to reach out . Louise
Give it over to the Highest Power and thats about it...We can lead the horse to the traugh, but we cannot make him/her drink....
I have had "sponsees" kinda disappear and , after a reasonable effort of making contact, I lift them in prayer and I go my own way...Detach....Keep working on me.....
I am not responsible for other's feelings, actions and results........thank God...Taking care of me is a full time job....When my sponsee asks about "how much work do I gotta do on me????" I just tell her that the program gives what you put into it...It is very reciprocal....Give and you get....Don't give and no growth.....I can guide her...Explain stuff to her....help her to work things for herself out....That is it....She has been with me for 2 years now and for the most part, is a good worker...I see the growth, however, if she were to disappear on me , yea, I would be concerned...Try to see what was up and if all fails, I would lovingly lift her to HP and let go and Let God...
what is meant to be in my life shall be....What is not meant, will flee!!!!!!
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