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Woke up this am, after a good nights sleep (for a change) and first thing I did was RE READ everyone's comments to my posts yesterday. Let me thank each and everyone of you for being there and the Hug the whole way from Costa Rica was just what I needed:)
Decided that TODAY I am going to keep asking myself "How important is it?" and take back some of the control I have lost AGAIN to EXABF. It ends when I say it ends and I am just about done being nice.
If the stuff is still there when I get home......He gets one final email, that I will drop it by HIS PLACE when I find the time, etc. He is no longer welcome on EITHER side of my fence wether I am there or not. That is MY home and I will not live in upset there because of his scheduling conflicts. So today is his chance, and there is no reason he shouldn't be able to do it today. Time should not be an issue-4 hrs is MORE than enough to drive 5 miles and throw a bike and grill on the back of your new truck.
I prayed on it this morning, asked HP to guide my steps in His will for me, and dropped it in my God Box. What's meant to be-will be, and I will know more when I get home. HIS will be done-not mine:) and I'll have to trust in that.
Keep me in your prayers...... Thanks for listening.
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
"Decided that TODAY I am going to keep asking myself "How important is it?" and take back some of the control I have lost AGAIN to EXABF. It ends when I say it ends and I am just about done being nice." -shelly
This is a good idea, do it a hundred times a day if you have to ~ anything to detach from what he's doing or not doing & enjoy your weekend with your son.
If you feel you have to get "not very nice" to stand for yourself, then do it, by all means. We dont owe anyone an explanation, I love that JADE acronym - don't justify, argue, defend or explain. Do what you have to ~ for YOU.
Wishing you a happy holiday!!!
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
(((Shelly))) I'm glad my hug worked hehehehe I relate to your issues with exabf. Been there. I'm glad you found away to deal with it and that you feel better today.
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Self-pity in its early stages is as snug as a feather mattress. Only when it hardens does it become uncomfortable.
Kitty "I love that JADE acronym - don't justify, argue, defend or explain. Do what you have to ~ for YOU."
Rosie____I am taking that to work tomorrow.....i am not gonna justify, argue or defend or explain ANYthing when i set boundary on this old fart of a bully boss......just gonna set boundary when needed...keep it short.....DETACH......NO conversation except what is absolutely necessary.....and apply the above....thanks
