The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
It seems like it never ends!!! Through this program and checking in with people and reading some of the lit, I find that I can watch it go round instead of hopping on and going with it. Just this morning I was able to find my AH using and somewhere deep inside, I found a different response. And guess what, He responded differently too! Yes, I'm still sad, but not as angry, spiteful and depressed as I usually feel. It really is progress and not perfection. Because nothing about how I feel right now feels perfect, yet I do feel like I am a little better than I was the last time I found him in the same situation. Thank god for all of this! Just wanted to share and hopefully keep this attitude to last a little longer.
Isn't it awesome to see/learn that a different reaction (from you) will indeed bring about a different response (from him).
Keep working it & remember to relish the baby microscopic steps you take in program, after all, they are still forward & that is always progress! Good for you.
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
I too struggle with "Reacting" way to soon, or Hard... Thanks to Al-anon... I now know. "I didn't Cause, Can't Fix it, and its Not My Problem" I have to focus on my own recovery and it is their job to take care of theirs :)
Everytime my Abrother would let my Mother down, I would crawl all over him like a cheap suit, I have learned that when I walk away "Without an Opionon", I know longer have that resentment for him I once did... It sure was not easy at first, but those "Baby Steps" sure feel nice when you apply them to your everyday :)
