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Daughter is supposed to come out to our house while we go out of town this week end to take care of our sick Beagle(bonnie lou), who thank God is much better(Beagle, not daughter). She loves Bonnie Lou and would take good care of her and give her the medicines she is still taking
So, I called her 3 times yesterday to touch base with her and kind of get a feel if she is still coming out. I left her 3 voice messages and of course I am getting worried. Finally she called me and with an edge to her voice, she said "Were you worried about me", (meaning did I think she was drinking. Well, truthfully, yes I was), but I just told her I was just trying to touch base with her; let her know where the key to front door will be, Bonnie's medicine schedule, etc. Well, she was upset because I was checking up on her.
It will be a miracle from above if she shows up this week end. She has a history of not following through. I guess we will see.
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Clara
------------------------------------ What don't kill you, makes you stronger!!!
Yep...this is trust, faith, surrender and acceptance time. Include patience, tolerance and unconditional love and you won't even hear the egg-shells. Stay in the moment. Let go and Let God.
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-- Edited by Jerry F on Wednesday 13th of May 2009 06:50:18 PM
Well I have been pray'n for you and Bonnie Lou... I agree that when dealing with others that have let us down in the past, it is ALWAYS good to have a plan B... I would talk to a neighbor or someone that could be a back up, to help you out... Just in Case...
We all WISH they would change, but here we learn... It is Only one Their Own Terms, that it is possible...With the history I would just play it safe and make sure you have what you need to go on with your plans...
I agree Let Go and Let God. Plan "B" could be just an alternate solution in your mind that will help you to feel calm. If all fails you could either take Bonnie Lou with you or leave her with a Vet.
The reason alanon suggest having a Plan "B" is that is relieves the anxiety, anger and panic we feel as the result of living with or dealing with alcoholism.
Do you have a back-up person to help out with Bonnie Lou? If so, I would have that person on standby, just in case.
Hey Clara......I would get a back up or maybe just forget daughter and set up another "doggie sitter"....Poor dog needs a responsible companion to care for her.....
Do you have anyone close to her that she would be comfortable with??? Separation anxiety would not be a good thing for her illness if there isn't anyone whom she is comfy with to watch her......
Just some stuff to think on ok???? Hope you can find someone to CARE for "BL"..I truly hope you can find someone for that precious little doggie.....
Clare...I agree with everyone. Get a plan B together. I can only imagine the anxiety you will have while you are away and have left your dog in AD's care. As much as we would love to believe they would do a good job we cannot have any expectations of them. I believe they even think they will do a good job but they are not thinking about their addiction kicking in at any time.
