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Dear All, A-Father has asked me and initially i said i would take over step mother who is now dead, car and insure him as a named driver. I have checked this out and am not prepared to do same as if he has any problems, and he does he is eighty not declaring same however he got away with that, and it would affect my no claims bonus, I am going to tell him tomorrow that I will be unable and am going to gloss over the truth in a way and tell him that it its because I am already insured on another car that there would be a problem, and cite costs, My father had no contact with me much while my step mom an a was alive, and I do not feel quite as guilty about this as what I thought I would, I find him only available if he wants something, I took her dog as he was so awful to her and I get the feeling he might turn on me tomorrow so will do all by phone, I have worried about this for quite some time so am relieved that i have come to a decision in relation to this, my no claims bonus was hard earnt and I feel uncomfortable about putting myself in any position in relation to him, though quite frankly I have no animosity just deep seated mistrust which is legitimate,
I find him only available if he wants something, I took her dog as he was so awful to her and I get the feeling he might turn on me tomorrow so will do all by phone, I have worried about this for quite some time so am relieved that i have come to a decision in relation to this, my no claims bonus was hard earnt and I feel uncomfortable about putting myself in any position in relation to him, though quite frankly I have no animosity just deep seated mistrust which is legitimate,
GOOD job!!!! You are taking care of you...I have folks who only want me when they want something...I am not generous with users.....I no longer fear any rejection from them because I no longer WANT them that close.....I agree PHONE.....and it is HIS prob. not yours...Let him get his own insurance.....I see no animosity, I see you taking PRUDENT care of yourself and your good repoir with the insurance company.......Trust or mis trust is EARNED...We dont' come into this world MIStrusting peopole......WE LEARN it..........Sadly some of us get hurt so bad, we cannot trust the good either.....I have had to work REAL hard to let one earn my trust..open the door a bit by bit by bit....Soon as they show me they are not trustworthy???? I do NOT put myself in their harms way....I can be nice, but NOT set myself up to get hurt....That is not animosity...That is healthy self love and taking responsibility for my happiness and serenity and in THIS case...What if he hit someone??? Could it impact you even more than your insurance no claims bonus???
naaaw you are SO RIGHT!!!! I totally would do the same thing...........
