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Hey y'all, I'm doing ok. Y'all made a huge difference yesterday. I need to add a PS to yesterday: So my stepfather called Su afternoon and mediates. he agrees that it's my life, my move, etc. He suggests that I'm stressed ( duh) and when I get stressed I get a little dictatorial (ok, I can get that) and that I'm stressing over how I'm gonna get everything done, how I'm gonna get everything packed, etc. He reassured me that they want to help me (ok), that they totally support me (ok) and they're totally excited for me (ok). And the whole time () my mother is putting in "Have you done...?!" "Do you understand...?!" "Can you see why I feel...?!" And I was like, now I was thinking this, I never said this, never said anything, Mom, John can't mediate if you keep butting in.
I also want to thank you for your encouragement when I needed to go to the executive board about the rather illegal activities. It was very scary. I prayed before I went in. And, when I went in, I was asked to name names (which was even scarier). And, I found out, the staff has a history of these activities. The secretary, to whom I was reporting all these things to, was just shocked how I was treated. And, said to the effect, that she and the other board members were quite shocked how I was treated, and very sad that the behavior was going on. Apparently these types of behaviors had been discussed or something like that, that they had "come to Jesus" meetings and nothing has changed. The secretary also mentioned concern exists among the board that my bosses' tenure (23 ys) is creating a level of complacency that is rubbing the board the wrong way ( oh? well, then!) I often tell you newbie to be empathetic to the alcholic. I may need to caveat that. To hear members of teh executive board be like "We are not amused that you have experienced these things, and that the staff behaved this way. Again." So, yes, I am enjoying the "just desserts" that is coming not from me. I know, I'm sick. Thank you, again, so much.
That was very brave going to the executive board and discussing the ina[ro[riate working conditions in the work place. It took a great deal of courage and is a big step in your recovery. The move will happen. Just keep on your path a day at a time. I agree there is a time to have empathy for the alcohoic and time to draw definate boundries-it takes really working this program to respond appropriately to the alcoholic especially in the work place.
TIGER_________ I often tell you newbie to be empathetic to the alcholic. I may need to caveat that. To hear members of teh executive board be like "We are not amused that you have experienced these things, and that the staff behaved this way. Again." So, yes, I am enjoying the "just desserts" that is coming not from me. I know, I'm sick. Thank you, again, so much.
Hey Tiger....That was sooo brave what you did...You did the right thing........had to giggle at the last sentences......YEP, sometimes I feel good to see the karma hit a deserving person who does bad and does not repent...........GREAT courage you showed......
duh) and when I get stressed I get a little dictatorial (ok, I can get that) and that I'm stressing over how I'm gonna get everything done, how I'm gonna get everything packed, etc. He reassured me that they want to help me (ok), that they totally support me (ok) and they're totally excited for me (ok). And the whole time (
) my mother is putting in "Have you done...?!" "Do you understand...?!" "Can you see why I feel...?!" 
And I was like, now I was thinking this, 
the staff has a history of these activities. The secretary, to whom I was reporting all these things to, was just shocked how I was treated. And, said to the effect, that she and the other board members were quite shocked how I was treated, and very sad that the behavior was going on. Apparently these types of behaviors had been discussed or something like that, that they had "come to Jesus" meetings and nothing has changed. The secretary also mentioned concern exists among the board that my bosses' tenure (23 ys) is creating a level of complacency that is rubbing the board the wrong way (
oh? well, then!) 
I know, I'm sick. 
