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I love animals, never lived in a house without any untill I got married, anyhow a year last christmas I went into a pet shop and a cockatial seem to take to me, and it was a right noisy one, probably still there because it was a bird with attitude, well hubby was sober and said we could have her, wow really, so we got her, and I loved her unconditionally, it wasn't long untill there was an air of discontentment in our home, and then the little snide remarks started to come and I knew that hubby didn't want her, I felt very torn and it was breaking my heart so I decided to part with her, to save us both the heartache, I don't usually let something go I love but I thought it's time I started to do the right thing, it's very hard not to have resentment and it's hard to hold back when hubby says it was only a bird, but I let go of her, she's in a lovely aviary now with other cockatials and I can go and see her every day, and I am not walking on egg shells anylonger (parden the punn), just wondered is this growth?
So sorry you had to get rid of your bird. My AH did not like animals in the house either, but i said there are things i don't like about you either and got a dog.
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I heard a great deal of love and growth in your post. Thank you for sharing. I hear that although you loved the Bird, unconditionally, the stress in the home over him, was not a positive one for you or the little bird.
You made a hard choice-to give up a creature you loved so it could have a betterlife, with more freedom and friends. The added bonus is that you get to see him anytime you want and there is peace in your home. I know this was a hard choice and understand your feeling of loss.
Just remember-resentments only hurt the one who holds it. Praying for your peace.
Sorry you had to part with your bird, even tho you cared for her so much, and yes it is great that you can visit her anytime that is wonderful as well...
As for your growth.. Do you feel better? That is your growth... If it makes you feel at peace then you are going the way you should... I am NOT one to say, "Give up your bird so hubbie will be happy" because I have one of those hubbies, that will throw "snide remarks" also, I have learned that those are HIS problems NOT MINE.. I have learned to block them with my Serenity Prayer, and just let him have his own opionion...
You however, know your husband better then I, so you are the only one that can deside what was right for you and your family...If you are happy... Then that is PROGRESS... Around here it is Progress Not Profection... Sooo Hope it all works out...
Take what you like and leave the rest... Love & Prayers Jozie
