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I been crying most of the night. my AH turned my sons cell phone back on, Of course he knows my SS number to get it activated again. I just feel so betrayed by my AH and just no respect. I'm tired of hurting all the time. When I get up in the afternoon coz oin my 7-7 shift. I pray Please help me today with the anger at my AH .Coz by the time I get up he is drinking already. He just went back to drinking after 3 yrs of not. but he was a dry drunk he did not do any meetings. I never been supported by him with any of the kids he always gave them what they wanted. He just pushed me around. I am to the point I have to leave for my own sanity. I was inhartied the house from my mom. I went to a lawyer and He needs 3500 dollars...Where do you come up with that much $$$. I just want him out. But I was thinking I just need to leave let him have the house. I will just sell it. I feel so emotional and crazy thinking. I just needed to vent here. I have a meeting tomorrow. But I just sit there and listen because I feel what they say is so much over my head and I been going for yrs and maybe a trust issue. I hope this all makes sense but thanks for listening.
LOVE Deb
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I put my hand in yours and together we can do what we could not do alone.
((((DEB)))) I too am dealing with the whole cell phone issue with my 12 year old son, so I can understand that. Please keep going to meetings. I found for me that I got much more out of my meetings when I gave in to them and participated. Not only did others benefit from my ESH, but I benefit every time I share. Trust issues are hard to get past, but you can and will do it if you really want to. Just keep hitting those meetings and coming here and posting. It truly does work if you work it:)
your friend in recovery shelly
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
Wow! What BS that is! I'd be upset too. Can you get a verbal password for your cell phone account so just your SS# isn't enough? I'd be turning it off again, especially if you are paying for it, but I'm stubborn like that :) Honestly though, since this is your rule, your boundary for your son...If you allow them to run over you this time, there will be a next. By the way, using your SS# to turn the phone back on is fraud and illegal.
There are lawyers that wouldn't want that much money up front. Shop around, and please don't leave your house unless absolutely necessary, you may never get back in.
Can you catch some quiet time somewhere? We often suggest attending a meeting but sometimes we just need quiet to sort out our thoughts, both would be even better. Do you have a sponsor?
Hang in there.. Christy
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
i offer you a great big warm hug it sounds like you feel uncomfortable within your own home and family right now that would make me feel very angry and sad too
i am very new to alanon so i don't know all of the wonderful short sayings that are offered but it seems like this is a time when they might help if you have one of your alanon books maybe you could scan through them until you find a passage that hits home then use part of it as a meditation or a mantra?
i recently left my a-bf but i let it get to the point of abuse the decision to stay or go is so complex, i think because we try to make it based on possible future behaviors which we cannot know
just remember to take care of yourself through this episode i find that i really do feel better when i shower and primp, wear a nice outfit, etc. it prevents my slipping so quickly into self-pity, etc and remember to keep out of arguements and keep a soft low voice sometimes A's may use an event to fight for some personal reason (they feel badly and your arguing with them validates it) don't get into a power struggle state your case, have a family meeting, but don't give up your values
