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To make a long story short my A boyfriends cousin is visiting from SC and his family is having a get together this afternoon. I'm not sure if I'm going or not me and my 4 yr old got sunburned yesterday afternoon and my boyfriend isn't sure if there will be any shade at his relatives house (an apartment building). My 1 yr old is cranky and I'm not sure I want to spend the afternoon chasing a cranky baby around outside at someone else' house. My issue is him drinking and then driving home and his attitude when he gets here. I am trying very hard not to dwell on what hasn't even happened! I would like to go and see his family for a little bit but don't know if I have the energy (didn't get much sleep last night...too hot). UUGHH! I hate these decisions :( Holly
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You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice.
Holley----You do whatever you are most comfortable doing. Perhaps you could go for a short visit and then go home. You could use your baby as an excuse to leave early.
However, that leaves the problem of your boyfriend getting home after drinking. Perhaps, if it is not far, you could go pick him up or someone(sober) could bring him home. Whatever you do, do what is best for you!!!!!
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Clara
------------------------------------ What don't kill you, makes you stronger!!!
I decided not to go. Logan was still asleep and after thinking about it I am tired and don't have the patience to deal with any extra crap today. I gave the dog a bath and decided to relax. I'm going to make supper early 3:00-4:00 since I'm not eating lunch and Logan didn't eat much lunch get it cleaned up so that I won't be rushing around at bath time. I would have liked to visit his family but decided my mental well being is more important. Sometimes I feel like I'm making all the sacrifices Holly
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Sounds as tho you have alot on your plate and I to know what it is like to be the only one making all that hard decission... Al-anon, has tought me that I must "take care of me" before I can worry about what the "A's" in my life are doing or not doing...
How he comes home is not your choice but his... You can not prepare yourself for something you don't know yet, so try to enjoy your dinner with your babies... Get some of your serentiy maybe a hot bath, or a quiet read... Something that makes YOU Feel good... Live in the NOW, not that later...
Take what you like and leave the rest... Friends in Recovery Jozie
