It was so great to get so many responses--I almost shed a tear.
Now the issue is of course being around family that drinks.
Most of the family is drowning their sorrows in the bottle.
My husband & I decided to spend quality time with all of them
but not quantity time. Does that make sense?
I am now sort of in the anger stage of grieving--since the loss
and while he was gone I suffered from poor sleep & a little lack
of it!  My support groups encourage me to take care of me &
someone on here suggested taking naps.  I have been lying
down as much as I can.  I have anxiety as well as anger .
I guess I will get to acceptance, too.
And, like I said, I am very grateful--my Ah took off in 2006 & I
almost lost him but because of the grace of God, he is still
with me.  And, he doesn't have to suffer this loss alone--
I think I am the biggest support he has and I am so happy
that I can be there for him & am very relieved that my health
is holding up.