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My mother's jewlery was taken from my apartment. I noticed this morning when I went to look for a specific pair of earrings and I couldn't find them. I thought I had leant them to my niece for her vacation and couldn't remember doing so.
When I went to look for them in my box I noticed some other things were taken. All of my rings that my mother gave me are gone, along with some earrings and umimportant chains. I have very good reason to suspect that it was my nieghbor that takes care of Pipers or her daughter. The only other people who have keys are the maintenance men and my niece. I would trust any of them with my life. My neighbor has been acting a bit odd lately but I figured that was because she has some things going on.
I have had the locks changed, filed a police report and let my landlord know. I have taken my last personal day so that the detectives can come and take some pictures. I will be having an extra door jam installed as well. Unfortunately I could not afford the renter's insurance this year. The monetary value isn't that great (maybe $2500?) but the sentimental value is priceless. I was planning on giving my niece the same ring that my Mother gave me when I graduated from high school.
I am trying to use as many Alanon tools as I can to stay calm. I have to play it cool when I see my neighbor because I don't want her to know that I suspect her or her daughter. This wasn't a random robbery, they knew what they were looking for. I am feeling betrayed, violated and so angry. A part of me wishes that this was an addict behavior. If it had been Tim or my brother in law, I could at least attribute it to that. I know how to work through betrayal from that. I have every intention (regardless of who it is and why they did it) if they catch them, to press charges. I am not getting my hopes up that my things will be returned. But I do intend to start calling around to pawn shops and jewelery shops and see if anyone has been trying to sell these things.
Please keep me and Pipers in your prayers. I am shaking my head in disbelief. I have always felt safe in my home. Much love and blessings to you and your families. Love to my Alanon critters.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
P.S. The detective came and took some pictures. One of the pieces is on ebay. It could be the exact one or not. But at least they have a picture of it. Ironically the detective was knocking on the neighbor's door as she was calling me to see what I was doing. She wouldn't answer the door until 10 minutes later when he insisted she answer it. She wouldn't let him inside and they talked on the stoop. She was angry that I didn't come up and confront her instead of calling the police. He then talked to her daughter. He said he will be calling and going around to the local pawn shops and looking at the ebay piece. I have let 2 of my neighbors know that I was robbed and that only the maintenance men, myself and my niece are allowed in. I also told the postman who's an old friend. That way they can keep an eye on the place.
On the advice of Piper's "Aunt" I will be keeping her inside while I am at work. She won't like that, but better safe than sorry. I would hate to think that someone would harm her, but then I didn't think I would be robbed either. I'll just have to make sure that I spend extra play time with her.
-- Edited by Karilynn on Thursday 16th of April 2009 02:08:47 PM
-- Edited by Karilynn on Thursday 16th of April 2009 03:36:16 PM
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((((Kariylnn))))...I relate to your thoughts and feelings and intentions. I went thru that myself. I didn't like it one bit and had to tip toe around all the stumbling blocks that came up for me. In time I turned it over before it owned me. Only in time and with program. You've done some "next best things". More of them are coming. You'll do fine.
I hate that this has happened to you, my friend. Please know I am sending out prayers that you will find your precious items. I know that doesn't usually happen, but all things are possible with a HP that loves you!
HUGS to you, Rita
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It's such a violation to have things just taken like that. And with looking forward to extending the tradition with your niece, they took that happy anticipation too. I hope it's HP's will that the items be found. Meantime.... if you know how to work through it with an addict.... why not treat her like one?
(((Karilynn))) I'm so sorry for your unhappy experience with Mom's jewelry. This happened to my next door neighbor a few years ago, and it happened just a few days after a workman had been there. Someone knew her routine and knew when she was out. Long story....eventually the police uncovered a theft ring and her and many other people's valuables became available to claim. However, by that time, my neighbor was so sick and tired of worrying about it, she just let them go. I never quite understood that, but that was her choice.
Wow, that sucks. In my small town, you always know the thief. Your neighbor or the neighbor's kid. In Alanon they tell us to pray for them. Hope Pipers is safe.
I, too, am very sorry about your Mom's jewelry. What a violation of your home.
I can relate and sooooooooo understand the anger you are feeling right now. If someone took my Mom's jewelry, I would be heartbroken. That and a few other items are some of the memories that I have of her. Doesn't matter their street value, what matters is how precious and sentimental they are to me.
Live strong, my friend, Maria
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This kind of thing is like a violation of body, spirit, and space. Terrible to think of someone else, who does not deserve them, having your mother's jewelry. Nothing I hate more than a common thief.
I am sorry this has happened Karilynn. Why be calm? Allow yourself to carry on, yell and scream, of whatever else will ease some of the pain and frustration. As for your neighbor, I would point-blank ask her.
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