PRAYERS AND ESH NEEDED ASAP - Al-Anon Family Group

inhisarms · Veteran Member

PRAYERS AND ESH NEEDED ASAP

clara · Senior Member

How long has it been since you placed the call to the police. Perhaps you should call them to get an update.

Keep us posted. We care.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Inhis arms.
If it has been over two hours since you called the police, I would call again to find out what is going on. I have had similar situation on two or three different nights. Twice the police called back immediately and once I had to call.

Each time, they had entered the house and taken him to the ER. All was well

Say the serenity prayer and try calling for an update.

I am praying for your peace

-- Edited by hotrod on Thursday 9th of April 2009 10:51:50 PM

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

This is HP time Kim...This is the turning it over time. You do your part and use
the patience tool and humility tool and all the others you can remember from
the program and meeting rooms and literature.

Will be patient with you... (((((hugs))))) smile

Karilynn · ~*Service Worker*~

(((Inhisarms))),

I remember those days when A didn't come home and left no note. I woud call the hospitals, and any other place I could think of. I checked a few local bars, etc. I even called an addict emergency center (and they wouldn't tell me anything because of patient confidentiality). I was like a crazy woman. I went so far as having the police come to my house and I was talking to the officer about what options I had. In walks Tim. He was completely sober and had gone out for a drive. Boy was he furious with me. I don't blame him. He hadn't relapsed. Although he did concede my point by not leaving me a note so I wouldn't worry.

There were plenty of times when he would leave and had relapsed. That's when I would come here. Call a friend. Do anything I could to take my mind off of him. There was nothing I could. An addict was gonna do what an addict was gonna do, nothing I could do about it. Eventually I learned to turn him over to his HP. I know you are scared. The police will call if anything he has been picked up (unless he wouldn't call you). Take a deep breath. This is the nature of their disease. Sometimes no news is good news. I hope it turns out okay for you both. Love and blessings to you and your family.

Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty

inhisarms · Veteran Member

thank you everyone for the great ESH! Never heard from the police but i did hear from ABF hours later. He called begging me to get him a bottle. I told him i would find a detox but not get him a bottle. He was crying, begging, pleading but i stood firm. I told him "I love you and i cant watch this disease kill you anymore. If you want to go to the hospital or detox I will find you a place, but if all you want is a bottle, i am not the one to call" I hung up and he continued to call 36 times but i let it go to voicemal. I finally turned the ringer off, said the serenity prayer a million times and fell asleep. I went to work this morning as usual and had a great day. No one has heard from him again, so he is obviously on a 4 day and counting binge. I worry because i know when he drinks it gets bad real fast and he almost died twice this year. I am going to snuggl in bed read my alanon books and pray he calls 911 before it is to late. This disease is straight from hell and i know the only answer is if he truely wants to work a program. You would think after a dozen treatments he would get it....I have detatched so much it scares me. I wonder am I even human anymore?

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