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Welp after being turned down by (3) Lawyers, I desided I was sick of it... Sooo I got a wild hair, and desided to go out on my own... I mean really.. What ever happened to picking up a phone or showing up on someones door step and saying "OK... This is what Is going on... How do ya want to work it out?" Soooo I called the land owners, 1 of the 4... and just told her flat out... This is what is in the estate, there is No money to move the trailer, and I don't think it will move even if I had it... I could get a lawyer, and if I did well then there would be NO MONEY left to give you for past expenses and everyone looses, Told her if she could help me come up with a salution to make everyone happy that is what I would do... I also told her if she would like me to write her a check for the balance in the estate, I would do that as well for I just want it spent so it is NO LONGER ON ME... Soooo
She ask if there was ANYONE Trust worth that I thought would be interested in the having it... I told her that I would ask my baby sister who is 21, Don't drink, Goes to College, and works full time... but other then that I was NOT speaking for anyone else... She told me to check and she if she wanted it, if not she would ask some of the truck drivers they have, that rent places, and maybe they would want it...
So Called baby sis, she needed a night to think on it... But would consider it... because the lease is up on her currant appt. in June...Sooo If she wants it, her and I are going to the MVA and making her OWNER, if not, we will see what else is in the cards... The lady was really grateful that I called and told her I would pay the back rent and I may have enough to cover expenses of water pipes, if it was there, I would do it... Just to be done with it, but once the money is gone its gone, then the state can take it over, and I am DONE...
As for the Rent that I was told was paid "All but ONE Month" was yet another Abrother alcoholic lie... He has not paid ONE BILL since I gave it to him in feb.. So I had to pay 3 months, plus 3 months of late notices... Also he has been going to the local bar that sits about a stones thro from were the trailer sits, and then going there after the bar closes and "Sneaking in to the trailer" and sleeps there and then slithers out the next morning when "He Thinks" all the neighbors are all not looking... LOL... ALL 3 neighbors are Elderly, and trust me.. They are sit'n at there windows waiting for a bird to land on the roof, they are so Aware of there surroundings... Also... She shared with me that my Abrother Cussed her one day while Drunk of course, and that is how this whole thing got the ball rolling, UP Hill Only For ME!!!
Sooo that was the "Short" version"... I was on the phone with the lady for 2 hours, and after making the offer to baby sis, I came home made me a HUGE bowl of Ice cream and cheesy's and celibrated my accomplishments for the day... :)
No it is not over, but I am about out of estate money, and the way I see it the sooner it is over the better, I have done desided that (I) will get my father a Stone for his greave out of my own pocket, and then that too will no longer be on my mind... It will be costly but I guess that much I owe him for bringing me life...That is the only way I can look at it right now...
I have been reciting my Serenity Prayer... ALL DAY... I have been "Pray'n on It, Stay'n On it, and Surviving It"... Progress not profection I persume... I am doing my best to stay on top, and I am doing my best to keep it together.... I got (2) new books today.."Courage to Change" & "The Language of letting Go" so I intend to jump head first into them and try to get some of my serenity back...
AM i doing the right thing? Am I doing the best I can? Am I doing this out of desperate times? I don't know... I don't know much really... I know I have had a Crap load of stuff put on me , since my Afather past, and I know that if my plate gets any fuller then it currantly is I may not be able to hang on..But for today this is all I have...
Any ESH would be great... I need a Push, Something... Anything would be great...
WOW! you do have your hands full. Keep your chin up, if things get crazy and you don't know which way is up or down, then just stop. Chill for a bit, then make a decision. I LOVE BOOKS, i'm sure you'll find something in each one that will help you along this journey. HUGS, Tonya
I think you did the right move- going to the landlord and discussing the issue. It sounds as if the 2 hour conversation was productive and some solutions surfaced.
It took great courage to go it alone (without lawyer) and have the wisdom to negotiate with a clear mind.
Great progress
I am glad you took the action. One step at a time up the mountain
