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Well, this is what I have been pushing for the last 6 months. I have been working w/the school and the police to build a case against my son, proving that he is unruly and out of control so that I could get some help for him. I figured he needed a wake up call, eye opener from inside the Juvenile Detention Home walls. And now he is getting it.
He went to court last week for his 2nd shoplifting charge and alcohol possession. He was not very cooperative w/the judge. She sentenced him to 30 days. He may get more when he goes back to court after the 30 days.
All I can do is PRAY that while he is in juvie, he receives counceling to help him cope w/his anger issues. I pray that he will come out of there w/a new positive outlook on life. I hope he learns some humility and learns to appreciate the things he has at home.
So we shall see. In the meantime, I am writing to him and going to see him on visitation days. I am just sitting and waiting, hoping and praying.
I just got a call from Juvie and my son is apparently sick w/bronchitis...so now I have to go pick up a prescription they are calling in and drop it off. I thought that if you got sick while in jail, they provided the meds to make you all better!!!! Why am I running to the pharmacy to pick up meds for him? Ugghhh, I cannot stand the juvenile system around here. I get no help from them when I need it but am expected to drop EVERYTHING just to help them when they need it. Something is wrong w/this picture!!!
Detaching doesn't mean, at least for me, not being a part of the process. What part and how is what I get to decide. For an extra buck or two you might be able to get the pharamacy to deliever the meds. In any case this is about his health which he has to have in order to make the changes necessary to swap directions in his present journey. I had a lot of problems learning how to continue to be loving and supportive to my alcoholic. My sponsors and the members in the rooms of Al-Anon all were great teachers.
Sending lots of gentle hugs your way! I still remember when youngest daughter was in lock-up, not pleasant memories at all. She was still defiant and angry. Visits were uncomfortable to say the least.
Who would have thought that HP would have brought both of us to where we are today? We have a good relationship, and both of us took important lessons from her time in the system.
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"If a dog will not come to you after having looked you in the face, you should go home and examine your conscience." - Woodrow Wilson
My hat goes off to you for sticking to your plan in getting your son the help he needs. I know this was not an easy choice for you.
It is very difficult to turn your child away. Believe me, I know because I am living with that decision every day. I told my grown daughter that she could not come to our house. Perhaps this was the push she needed. She is in rehap now; angry with me, but she is there none the less. If she stays angry with me the rest of my life, just so she gets well, will be ok.
I will keep you in my prayers.
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Clara
------------------------------------ What don't kill you, makes you stronger!!!
