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It was the night from hell and I didn't think I could hurt that much again but there it was. Missed some work and felt somewhat like I lost my soul. He came over Friday night and we talked openly and honestly and worked things out for now but I'm feeling once bitten twice shy and a little hesitant to trust that this wont happen again. We are meeting with the family counselor tomorrow for some couples counseling which I am hoping will clarify our boundaries, needs/expectations and help with communication. Turns out he's a bottle it all up and then freak out kind of guy (by freak out I mean run away not scream and fight which is the opposite of what I'm used to). I'm hoping with a little counseling we will be able to get through this and come out closer in the end with a better understanding of each other.
I see why you feel the way you do... Having a ruff one myself...all I have to give today is TAKE CARE OF YOU.... I Wish You luck... Keep Coming back...
I was a fighter, angry at his behaviour, the more i fought him the more withdrawn he became. Lots of issues which were never resolved but which he would bring up years later...kept everything close to this chest but never forgot one word i had ever said..not bad for an alcoholic...fighting is pointless, its too late for me..but let him be, dont react, its what everyone says, it takes the power away.no response from you equals he has to deal with his own stuff instead of focusing on yours..as i said too late for me...
Just to add, when i say too late for me..he did run away..to another country..like I never existed. hard but im beginning to get my life back. Lilly...
I Wish You luck... Keep Coming back...