The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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Not sure if my experience will be much help.... At the first Rehab that my ex-AW attended, the last week of the 28-day program was for spouses as well, so I went down and spent a week there, where we developed plans, communication ideas, etc., etc.... I thought it was time well spent, and was really hopeful about the future - but she relapsed 11 days afterwards, and ended up pretty much "throwing all the plans" in my face.....
Now on a more positive front, at the next Rehab facility she attended - I attended a one-week long session for ME, entitled Insite - which was basically a week-long intensive self-care and group therapy session..... That one was worth it's weight in gold....
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
I have attended two such sessions. Both at the same rehab facility. Main focus was the disease of alcoholism and alanon tools. We even attended 2 alanon meetings a day while ther.
I found they strongly reinforced my powerlessness over alcohol and the real need to recover myself by attending alanon.
I dunno! And I was looking forward to anything like it. But unfortunately, my A Hubby left rehab after 5 days. Now, I am really trying to focus on loving and living in today and not looking forward to anything in the future. Normally, anything in the future gives me anexity. Sincerely, Tonya
Altho I have not personally experienced it , I have many freinds who have they said it was a positive experience , a chance to say how they feel , share thier fears with a third party present . I hope u are going to Al-Anon meetings for yourself sobriety is not easy in the beginning it can be just as bad as the drinking , with your own program u will be busy taking care of u and looking after your own needs while hopefully he does the same in AA . When sharring your fears etc try and remember to1/ say what u mean ,2/ mean what u say and 3/ don't be mean when u say it .
the family meetings are to help you learn more about the disease. and perhaps more about your loved one. I think it is really good and helpful. good luck!!
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