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I had a chat with my sponsor today she said that if I focused on my recovery and told AB that we couldnt be together until he is in recovery that he may promise again that he will enter recovery. we discussed recovery mine and an A's. I carnt be with anyone at moment need to really focus on me. I dont want him to go into recovery just to keep me. I am trying to make choices that are right for me. This relationship is not good for me. I feel broken I feel I need to heal alone.
Even if A went into recovery it would be a long time before we could chance a relationship. I am going to just say its over no more chances even if goes into recover I need to focus on me hand him over
Tracy, Very powerful. Thank you. I am so glad you see he cannot do it for you he must do it for himself. Same for you, you must recover for you. I get asked occasionally why I go to meeings, even though I am not with A anymore. I say, I go for me. Because I am addicted to people who are addicted to..... Keep coming back. Julie
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Never allow someone to be your priority, while allowing yourself to be their option.
I know I feel that way. I have tried dating but I think I am still too burned to be available. Oddly enough since I've decided I am unavailable I've been asked out more.
I know for me there is no going back to the ex A. He caused too much damage and all trust is goine.
