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It is not easy getting an A to leave and I have not planned yet to leave with two teens struggling with mental health & school issures. I am following my path with help of sponsor, therapist, mostly hp and my own getting stronger slowly version of courage but it is exhausting and emotional and hard, day after day. I echo another post that it is truely amazing how we all do what we do but it is waaaaaaaaay better than what I use to do pre-al anon which was crazy, neurotic, controlling and sinking fast.
I feel stonger in some ways to make the changes I can make but fight myself sometimes about the things I can not change. I am ok, stronger in my direction but so exhausted physically, emotionally & mentally at times. Thank heavens, the spiritual growth keeps me more balanced to have hope for better times. I could not learn to have courage or take care of myself better if I had not met all of you here and others at f2f meetings. Thank you for sharing your energy, strength and hope that some days is the only thing that keeps me going.
hugs & prayers, ddub
-- Edited by ddub on Wednesday 25th of March 2009 11:09:47 PM
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"Choices are the hinges of destiny." Pythagoras You can't change the past, but you can change the future.
I dunno that any A leaves anything when he has a good deal going on. The A who I was with didn't leave, he abandoned.
I spent years arguging with him. I can relate to that you have set up a not very good place. Putting into place detachment there is difficult. Neverthless I currently live in a horrible environment but I manage to detach. Detaching is a real art form though. Do you have any one who supports you who has your back?
