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I am the person that wondered if Al-Anon would kick me out for not following through on my promises. Well, this has probably been one of the worse days of my life. I called my AD and told her she could under no circumstances come to our house. She is now completely out of options. I have cried a river of tears and have spoke to my sponsor twice. Bless her heart.
Jen was staying with an aquaintance of her's. He is a 75 year widow man. He called me and told me that I had to come pick up my daughter. I told him I was on my way to church, which I needed desperately!!! I told him I would call him after church.
I was too emotionally spent to deal with this sweet gentleman after church, so my sister, who was visiting called him. This man turned out to be on shrinking violet. Very smart man. He said he lost a son to overdose and hates to see another young life lost to addiction. He said he was going to call my daughter's husband to come get her and put her in the hospital. After all, she is still his responsibility even though he has filed for divorce.
God bless all of our dear family members with addictions and guide us to make the right decisions.
Thanks everyone. Just wanted to get this off my chest.
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Clara
------------------------------------ What don't kill you, makes you stronger!!!
"The disease affects everyone it comes in contact with..." That was what I was taught and came to believe in Al-Anon which has been proven over and over again including your own post now. Your alcoholic/addicted daughter is responsible for her compulsion and the consequences...all of them. God bless her. In spite of God and you and the rest of those who she has come upon the disease rules. She is the only one to reach out for help. If the compulsion to get help is as strong as the compulsion to drink and or use she will reach out to those who will be able to show her some light and a different sober path. I am in contact with people who make that choice on a daily basis...I am one of them in both programs. I know where to get help but had to be told where the door was first. Your daughter knows where the door is. Try calling AA to see if a recoverying woman is available who can reach your daughter. If there is, direct that person to where your daughter is and then step back...into your own program.
