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For those of you who are reading this......I decided to change my screen name, and have a bit more anonimity(?)....this is shellyj123, and today is the first day of Spring:). I'm starting over with a fresh start, and thought a new name would be nice.
Spent yesterday rereading all of my old posts and was able to look back and see how far I've come from where I was last fall. Realized that there is nothing that my HP and I can't handle together, and that includes the date tonight with my EXABF. Spent a lot of time in worry the past few weeks over this date and who knows why. I am worth loving and sometimes I forget that. Though my HP doesn't....my daily reading for today was a slap in the face-lol......and a much needed one. No matter the outcome of tonight-I am blessed and grateful.
I know I won't be alone........I know HP is going with me, and I have no doubt that each and every one of you will be there in spirit (I can almost hear TLC-lol), so I'd like to thank each and every one of you for that:) I've never been alone since I found my way here:)
New life changes, new name..great idea. Keep moving forward
"Spent a lot of time in worry the past few weeks over this date and who knows why."
I used to worry too. You know what? (speaking from my own experience) This day is here, it was going to come whether you worried or not. What could you have been doing with that wasted time and angst? The same goes for when it's over, whether good or bad, it was what it was. We can't change the past. That's why staying in the NOW is so important. You can focus on "What is the best response, action, feeling or words for right now?"
I tell my son the same, and that staying in the now will make the difference between a response and a reaction. (I'm pretty profound eh? LOL!!) There's a huge difference between the two.
I would suggest you leave your old bag full of old resentments, fears, expectations and bad memories at home tonight and fill your new bag with Alanon tools that are full of slogans, detachment (if needed) and above all attention to your now and the space around it. Keep refocusing to "this minute, this breath" if needed. One breath is enough time to change a reaction to a response if you're focused.
Have a good time! Christy
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