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I met with therapist and signed up to complete a co-dependence program put on through my health provider -kaiser- this can take up 2 2 months once a week but they give me 4 months to complete. She gave me a questionier to see if I am co-dependent. well out of 19 questions where you answer yes, no or sometimes I only had 2 no's and 3 sometimes the rest where all yes.
so my first class is thursday a community meeting then recovery group after then codependency education, I am there from 5:45 until 8:30 pm I have to complete 8 topics on
family systems, support groups, grief and loss process, codependency , and communication, mediation and spirtualiy, intimate relationships and reparenting ouselves
I have to complete 4 topics on desease concept of chemical dependency, psychological and social aspects of addiction, treatment, recovery and relapse prevention, and addiction and families
I am not all sure what I signed up for but will go to it all. I was surprised that I was so co-dependent here I thought I was not I just thought I had become a enabler but more to it than that I see.
I explained all this to my ABF and he was supportive but I feel the only reason that he was is because if I go then he does not have the problem I do as the therapist explained he is in denile. Thats ok I feel better that I am starting something that will help me understand how to cope with being a co-dependent,
Update he has been sticking to the rules or guidlines what ever you call it.
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It's good that you found some support Wendy...Go for it!! Codependency is alot different that being supportive and helpful. I'm sure you will get a better score on the test after doing the program. Keep coming back here and relaying what you've found out. We can always use good ESH.
The ex A I was with was thrilled when I first started therapy I stopped arguing with him. Denial is pretty solid. I kept on with my recovery, he did not.
