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Christy


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This is such a sad story and unfortunately all too familiar.  I saw it in the Anchorage newspaper.  This was a once vibrant woman caught up in a codependent /abuse situation.  It's a well written story of her decline.  For anyone that is in this situation, please read it.
Killer stole victim's spark, then her life

On a side note:
There was a murder/suicide on the street I live on this week.  I am in a quiet subdivision in a country setting.  I've lived here 16 yrs. and never have I come home to see forensic vans, police cars , crime scene tape along with news helicopters overhead. 

It's been such a strange week.  A young woman I had taken in when she was 16 yrs old lost her bipolar father to suicide by kneeling in front of a train.  There was the news of mastiff's husband's heart attack thrown in the mix (so glad he is recovering). 
It continued this morning, I found out my sweet Uncle is in the hosp. in very poor condition and the sad news of our stillkickin's Mother.
I have an underlying current of missing my husband terribly.  I haven't seen him since Jan. 1, so everything makes me even more emotional at this point.  Let alone all these happenings.

Having to be responsible for putting a wild bunny down earlier in the week put me over the edge.  I know that may sound trite but it was big 2 day ordeal and my love for animals equals my love for humans.  It's a whole long story but it ended that my Vet put the bunny down for free, God love her.  I had to ask my son to take the bunny cuz I was a emotional mess.

The ONLY somewhat funny thing was...and let me add my son probably thinks I'm totally insane at this point. 
I had just talked to the Vet and she had told me she would put the bunny down for free, just bring it in.  All these things were accumulating, along with missing hubby and her kindness made me cry.  

My son saw me crying and put his arms around me and asked me what was wrong.  The only word I could get out was "bunny". 
He said. "Is the bunny dead?" I shook my head "no".   

Then I looked up and saw the look on his puzzled face and realized how silly that conversation sounded and burst in to laughter.   I looked at him again and he said "Mom?, you OK?",  which made me laugh even harder.
I wouldn't have blamed my son if he would have just backed away from me slowly.  lol !!

I still am reflecting on the week thinking  "What the heck is going on?"  no


My hubby is coming home Friday.  It can only get better.  right?

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Christy... (((((HUGS)))))

Sounds like you have had quite a buzy-crazy week... I know what ya mean tho when it seems it jsut never lets up... That is a hard week to have... I am glad that Hubby is coming home and things hopeful will get better...

Some days I get out of bed and wander what Gods cruel joke was making me get up for such drama, but now since al-anon I seem to "Let Go & Let God" ALOT... In dealing with my Abrother I think my favorite line I use everytime I see him now is "It NONE Of My Business" Some times when I am sstruggling the sloagan do help me come back to a place of peace.. Not always an easy road, but one that is worth running in the end...

Sending out Love & Prayers, in hopes that you have a better week...That is one thing I was always grateful my meetings were on Friday night,.... That ment everything that drove me crazy ALL week, would lay to rest after fri. night...lol... Hope you get the same...

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Jozie...

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Having the hubby home soon will help a lot, I would think! Its hard dealing with all that loss...its quite a bit- and when it keeps rolling around you just never know when or where its gonna strike sometimes... I think its really hard when animals need to be put down, too. Its so hard to see them suffer and they work so hard to stay alive even when they are suffering so much. You have a lot on your plate. Sometimes the waves are all crashing all around. Its just how it is sometimes. You seem to be holding your own pretty well. Hugs and love, j.

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The good thing is that I don't take everything on as mine anymore.  I used to see everyone's pain as if it was happening "to me" and "at me".  
I don't go there anymore.  But I still have compassion for these people and and can't help but hurt for them.
Throw in a innocent bunny with a little fat belly and I'm done for.

It just seemed so crazy that all this could happen in a week.  Usually it's spread out throughout the year or something.  Maybe the rest of the year will be smooth sailing biggrin


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That article could have been me. I did not care enough about myself, that was why I stayed with an abuser. I literally took the whole "till death do us part" about my marriage vows for a long time, till I realized that I was going to die if I did not leave. The thing about abuse is that is gets worse, never better. It escalates. Its a sobering article. Its got alcoholism written all over it from top to bottom, its true.

I think alot of women in their 40's and 50's hit a tough spot when it comes to getting involved (or not) with men or with relationships. Someone comes a long and provides a structure, may be charismatic, persuasive, funny, have some kind of energy that is really enlivening for lack of a better word. Its hard. Its lonely and tough being in your 40's/50's, being a single parent perhaps, divorced, whatever.

This is why having a program is so important. Its a structure, for me. It keeps my head above water and keeps things in perspective. Its a really sad article and her friends and family seem so mystefied. She had a death wish of some kind. I know I did. But that is past me now. I got help and I am so glad I did. Thanks for posting this article. Jean

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((((Cujo))),

You are only a few days away from hubby's homecoming.  It's been a rough week for our Alanon family.  But this family surrounds us with love and helps keeps us sane.  (I, of course will never be sane, but as close as I can get. ) That is a source of great comfort to me.  You are my security blanket.  Give hubby an extra big hug for me.  I miss that most of all.  Hang in there lady.  Life will be looking up.  Much love and blessings to you and your family.  Here's hoping Jack is behaving himself.  After all he gets to me his new Daddy soon! Woof! 

Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty smile.gif  



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