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i woke up this morning after sleeping in the guest room. i was frustrated after having been woke up so many times in the night by him. as normal, the coffee was made and he was not home on a friday morning. he was at his aa meeting. i called him to let him know i was awake and that the coffee was good. he answered the phone, good monring! i'm sorry i woke you up last night and i am realizing that i am a very selfish person. i'm a good person but selfish. today i am going to accomplish 1 thing, i am going to fix the lawnmower tire. I gotta go, this meeting is good...i love you and i am working on myself. that was all in one breath. i had to stop being frustrated with him. i am drinking my coffee and going to look forward to today being fri"YEAH"day! today, i see hope! hugs all!!!!
That sounds wonderful!! I get that same typr of response after a bad day or night and he has thought about. Things get to be great and then it happens again in a few days. I am at the point to where I'm sorry means nothing to me anymore. Do you ever feel that way?
I am glad yall are gonna have a great friday! Hope it conitinues through the weekend
I'm glad to hear that you were validated. I would recommend however that you do not rest your expectations on him validating your feelings every time. I would recommend that, even though he was able to acknowledge his role this time, does not indicate that he will be able to acknowledge his role every time. He may also not be able to acknowledge your feelings every time. I hope you have a sponsor and are working the steps. I believe that these are by far the best tools for helping us feel validated and acknowledged every time.
Thanks, y'all. I think it was too good to be true. He relapsed on Saturday evening and has been feeling sorry for himself all day today. HUGS IN RECOVERY, Tonya
a's can be charming. They can also promise the world. When the ex A I was with wanted something from me he promised everything. Recovery is hard going for them.
Do read Getting them Sober. Toby Rice Drew can give you a primer on what to expect in early recovery. One sure thing is please don't base your serenity on what he does. The center needs to hold.
