The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I cannot do anything about my mom, my husband or anyone unless I first focus on me. I tend to get into their business too much. I am so grateful for their prescence in my life. Today I am sitting in the library trying to get my head together & do what is in front of me. This perticular day is a Monday & I am trying to stop it from being a Manic Monday. I haven't been on the computer since Friday. So much always goes on during the weekend and I forget how to stay focused and work my program which is not that great. Anyway, I am still grateful & humbled these days & have hope for the future. Those are the only things that get me through sometimes. I really need to read the meditation books more often. I have the 3 that have been out. I really relate to Courage to Change but on the Tuesday meetings we read out of One day at a time. Actually, we use ODAT on Weds. too. Nevertheless, I need to do what is best for me. What I also want to say to everyone--never give up! I will do the same. Kathleen
(((((Kathleen)))) Sometimes focusing on ourselves, for me, seems to be the most impossible thing to do....of course I have spent my entire life putting myself last and my needs last, so when I came here and everyone kept saying "put the focus on you" I thought they were all whacked-lol.......little did I know that they knew what they were talking about....
Even if you can't get online daily, read, read, read, meditate and use your tools....Remember there is nothing you and your HP can NOT get through together....and even when you are struggling to find your focus you are right where you need to be:)
keeping it simple shelly
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
You know one way I have pulled back from being over involved with others is to get very very busy. Then I don't have time to worry and obsess about others. I set goals for myself. If I have free time I can be right in there doing stuff I should not be.
I think meditation helps but I also think intercepting stuff helps. That's my ESH. Maresie.
(((((Hoot!))))) Aloha good to see you back. Sponsorship helped me tons. Having another recovering person close by willing to support and teach was a gold mind.
