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I am new to all of this...I don't really have anyone I can talk to that understands...I am 29 years old and mother to a 12 year old son. My current husband voluntarily admitted himself into a 28 day inhouse rehab program yesterday for which I am grateful. We have been married since last July and his drinking has increasingly gotten worse...My first husband I married at age 22, he was a very heavy drinker. The only alcohol he would touch is "Aristrocat Vodka", as long as I live I will always hate those two words. He developed epilepsy from his drinking (his doctor said they didn't know for sure but that was most likely the cause). He had a seizure at work one day, damaged his brain stem, was in a coma for 6 days and passed on his 40th birthday. I met my new husband January 2008, wonderful man...I knew he drank the "occasional" beer, but had no idea the severity...Anyway, I know I'm rambling...It makes me feel better to know there are people out there that experience similar situations...
Welcome to MIP! You'll find here a family of folks affected by someone else's drinking, but we try to keep the focus on ourselves, not what the alcoholic is doing or not doing. We share our ESH - experience, strength and hope - to help each other through whatever we're facing. Keep coming back.
Welcome home!! Yes there are people out here who understand and many who can associate more closely with your story than others. In someway or another all here have had a relationship with the disease of alcoholism and/or addiction that almost killed our spirits completely until we were led or allowed to find the doors of recovery. I feel compassion with you for your former alcoholic husband. I've learned in the program that alcoholism is incurable and only can be arrested by total abstinence. If the alcoholic continues to drink compulsively they will have only three choices...sobriety, insanity or death. Sadness is one of the most enduring emotions the family, friends and associates of alcoholics feel the most prevalent emotion is fear.
You will get more welcomes here and more support than you have ever had. You will get tons of suggestions from the ESH of other survivors of this life threatening disease. With an open mind consider them all. Many members here follow very similar programs. We find and attend open Al-Anon meetings, get and read as much literature on alcoholism that we can, we learn the steps and traditions and slogans and serenity prayer, we come to understand a power greater than our- selves and more and we keep coming back as a commitment to our health and spiritual welfare.
I am glad you were led here. In love and support. (((((hugs)))))
Welcome you have found a safe place with people who understand as few others can. I cannot add to what has already been said but I just wanted to assure you that you are not alone and encourage you to attend alanon meetings. Now that your husband is in a rehab it would be a great time to start your own recovery.
I am so sorry for the loss of your first husband and understand your loss
Welcome to the board, you are no alone. This is a tough time and the fact that its happened to you before is awful. My thoughts are with you, keep posting.
so glad you found us here. We are a family of friends and relatives of alcoholics that in some way or other will understand your dilemas. I myself have not lost a husand to alcoholism, I am sorry for your loss, but I have married more than one alcoholic husband. It seems to be a trend for me to be drawn to this type of dysfunctional human being and try to fix them. Since being in al-anon I've learned new tools of detachment and loving the al-coholic while staying detached from what he does and let him suffer the consequences of his mistakes and hopefully learning from them. Al-anon is a program for me and my recovery from codependency and trying to "fix" people, the only person I can "Fix" is me and that is only through the help of a HP whom i chose to call God.
I'm glad you found us here and hope you continue to come and post on this message board.
(((((Pez))))) Welcome to MIP! Glad to have ya here! I married my EXAH when I was 22, divorced him when I was around 27, 28 (not sure spent a lot of time trying to forget those years-lol), and spent the last year with my EXABF, who has been sober and in recovery for 10years.... It's nice of you to join us please keep coming back
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Glad you are here. Can you get the book Getting them Sober. I think its an excellent resource. The more you can embrace the al anon program the better.
Thank you all for your kind words of support...I'm still new to this message board, so please bear with me.. If someone could help me with this website and chatrooms I would greatly appreciate it.
You are not alone! The chat room has 2 daily meetings in there, everyday...
Meeting Schedule: Monday through Friday 9am and 9pm EST, Saturday 10am and 9pm and Sunday 10am and 7pm. New Comers meeting Saturday 7:00pm.. Time Conversion UK + 5 There is always somone in the chat room to talk to and if not - just wait a few minutes, someone will come in. I have spent long hours in there talking to people who know exactly what I went through - and have share in chat and at this board on everything you could imagine - this is a safe place to be, welcome.You can also search the archived post, by putting a topic in the search function or u can go to the bottom of the board page & click on the arrow and you will see many other pages of archived posts here, lots to read if ur curious/interested.
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
