The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Wow just recieved guidance from HP thanks to another al anon memeber.
I try to fix everything make everything o.k. This means I control (try) people take on their responsibilities try and run their lives. I do this for two reasons because I care for them but also to create the life I desire. But I have learnt painfully that I carnt controll or fix others. They have to live own lives make own choices and mistakes. The more I try and fix and take on other responsibilities the sicker I become emtionally and physically.
In one of the posts i read a shortcut for the first three steps which simplifies them. I carnt-God can-so get out of the way.
I am going to focus on this now looking after my own responsibilities and handing others back to them. Wow this journey is hard but amazing I feel in control again (of ME)
GREAT JOB TRACY!!!! Isn't it wonderful how HP can speak to us through others and wonderful when we can actually stop long enough to listen and see our part in things!!
You are doing great! Be proud of yourself......
take care of u~ shelly
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
Here's another thing to check out. Harriet Lerner has a whole series of books on women's emotions, The dance of anger, dance of connection and others. Check them out. If you relate to the under responsibility over responsibility issue you will get a lot out of them. In addition look at People Pleasing by Harriet Braiker.
Be good to yourself. Remember focus on you (lovingly of course). Put the stick down and take a deep breath too!
