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Well yesterday I feel like I passed a test finally:) EXABF sent me a comment to my blog about MY 12 step program.....said I was "absolutely glowing" (so he must have been checking out my picts also) and welcomed me to the world of recovery so to speak. The old me would have had to comment back IMMEDIATELY for fear he might think I didn't care. What if he thought I was no longer interested? What if he found someone else who was there for him? What if he was waiting for a response??? The old me would have "what if'd" it to death and the questions would be swarming around my head .....What does it mean?, does he still care?, is this him seeking me out finally? I would have began obsessing and it would have taken days/weeks to find my way back to my program. The "NEW" me....WAITED til the next day to even accept his comment, thought it through and then replied with a simple thank you. The NEW me knows that it probally has no meaning other than what he wrote, and that my HP will take me there, or bring him here if it is where He wants us to go. The new me prayed for focus and kept on going about the business of my day, quite happy and content that for the first time I can remember since EXABF and I split-I DID NOT REACT! I DID NOT LOOSE MY FOCUS! I DID NOT JEOPARDIZE ME!!!! I guess slow and steady really does win the race huh??? Loving this good life!!!!
Keeping it simple today shelly
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
Good for you. Personally I don't answer the ex A no matter what he says on the answering machine. I have nothing left to say to him at all. I did for a long long time.
I was Ms Over reaction most of my life. I stil find it difficult to focus.
Well done, I like the bit about the what ifs, I'm a devil for that and ended up doing that all yesterday evening over a missed call from a government department, need to focus
Thanks you have made me get re focused and realise that i do have a choice. My EXAB is ringing a lot trying to get my focus back onto him, get me back on the roller coaster. I normally answer but tonight I will choose to ignore the call I dont want to hear the false promises.
