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Hello all. I haven't posted in a while, but look on frequently. I've been doing well. Haven't had contact with my ex bf for five months now. (He left and I don't know where he is - I believe he is staying with his "friends".) I am still going to my meetings, use my slogans regularly and am trying to take care of me. I've joined a gym, went camping with my son, involve myself in activities, try to enjoy each day, am laughing more, and have met a very nice man. My ex does pop into my head once in a while - if I see a place we went, or if I'm feeling insecure about something, he comes back to me. At first this was very frusturating, as I don't want him to even be in my head anymore, but I guess that will just take time. I still hate that if I saw him, I knew it would through me - I want to be at the point where I just don't care, where it just doesn't bother me at all - but I guess, I'm just being hard on myself and I just have to allow time to work it's magic. Several members in my group have told me what remarkable steps I have mad, how happy I seem to be now, how strong.....but I owe that all to them and this program and my higher power. Time I guess will heal all. Anyways, just wanted to say hi and give an update.
Glad you are doing well and glad that the program is working for you... I am slowly getting there myself since I have joined this program... I am always glad you find "Happiness" in the readings... We all have down days but sometimes it is nice to hear of the Good ones as well...
So thanks for your Share... Keep taking it "One Day at a Time" and keep coming back... We all need to get a little closer to being "US"... So thanks for the push...
((((mslouise))) WOW I could have wrote what you just did!!! I feel the same as you and have been thrown sooo many times by my EXABF popping back into the picture through emails and personal visits to my job etc. I read here somewhere once that they are like boomerangs and won't ever truly let go.
Today, I just remind myself that should he come back that I have no way of knowing how I would feel until then. I can't project even though, like you, I don't want him in my head anymore either. What I can do is keep asking HP to keep me focused on today and His will for me...
Keeping it simple shelly
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