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So, after 3 full days of drinking, my husband is in a hospital. His sister went and found him....brought him to a meeting. AH was saying he was going to kill himself. So, she called thepolice and they brought him to the hospital.
She called me to tell me that he is there. And when I said that I wouldn't come to see him, I think she was upset. I told her that I clearly could understand her fears and the need to protect her brother, but it would not be a good idea for me to go. Plus to mention it was 9:30 at night and I have a 2 and a 4 year old at home.
I told her that atleast he is safe, and hopefully they will admit him. But I also said that I would not come running to his aide. That I would not subject myself to his antics and crying and words.
I have an appointment with an alcohol marriage counselor in the morning. It was supposed to be for the both of us. I am still going. I need help in dealing with this.
But I refuse to go to the hospital....watch him go through DT's. It is hard but I will stay strong.
Good for you! Stay strong in that boundry. Your kids need you way more than your A who is in the care of the professionals. There would be nothing you could do for him right now anyway. Don't worry that his family doesn't get it. Unless they get a program, they never will get it and very well may end up enabling him.
I know, from my experience in a very similar situation that it isn't easy. You're doing great! Let go and let God.
You made the right decission for you thats all that matters , no others (his family) don't understand but that is not your problem . Letting go is not easy and I know the struggle yur going thru . yrs ago I had to make a decission rescue my husb or leave him where he was and pray that he wouldnt die . I chose to leave him where he was as I like you could not go thru that again . he didn't die but hit his bottom and has been sober for 20 yrs . all I had to do was step aside so God could get at him . hang in there Louise
Canary you have to start somewhere and sometime...let it being as early as possible. You have a HP that is making itself present for you. Let go and Let God.
Will be remembering you and your alcoholic in my prayers.
Get as much support as you can for yourself. Do you go to the chat room here. If not it might be a good chance to download all the stuff and give it a try. The chat room can lead to the meetings here which are really great.
