Ok, another video: Go to Yahoo! and click on the video "From $700K to $10/hour."
Wow. I mean, if anyone has a "right to resent," this man has lost EVERYTHING. His wife doesn't even have a resenment! (Or not one they're willing to talk about publicly)
"I feel sorry for him." Today, that's how my resentments wind up. I need to process through all my feelings, toxic and intense that they are, wheneverI feel them. Consistently, they've always wound up the same way: Whenever I'm angry, whoever I'm angry at, I feel sorry for. I feel sorry that "these people," whoever they are, behave like they do. I also make an effort to see if these parts of their behavior are genuine personality traits (like OCD) or whether they're reactions based out of self serving motives (like backstabbing, back-back biting, rumor mongering, and other fear based pettiness that makes grown adults behave like middle schoolers).
Of course, there are some behaviors that defy explanation. Incest, battering--all these behaviors have no "explanation" for me. But, for me, after a great deal of work, time, and effort, I feel sorry for these people. I feel deeply sorry for my father and my mother--as I've been able to connect the dots about how they grew up and who their parents were, I've been able to see how terrifying their own lives were, and what we don't "handle" we pass on--we re-create the familiar, and create new horrors along with it.
I DO feel sorry for people like my father, my mother, the Bernie Madoffs, the horrible, evil people in the world who create true horrors for the ones they touch. But I get here after alot of work and prayer. And time. Don't forget time. Or the steps. Can't forget those.