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here is the latest news he is now smoking crack!!!I cannot believe this, found alot of withdrawls from bank several times a day and found that his so called drinking buddies to crack and sell it to him,he said about a week now. had a incident where he would not let me sleep on the couch and was taking the blankets and throwing them on the floor and said if i didn't sleep in bed he was going to stay up and not let me sleep, he was calling me useless piece of ---- and saing some horrible things as i did back, i cannot just sit there and take it anymore , i said something about him picking on a woman and i should have someone come over and let him stand up to a man and get thei crp beat out of him, he then went and got a knife and pushed me across our d/r and stabbed the wall and said this is what would happen if someome to beat him up..i was terrified and have never seen him quite that way, so the next day he admitted to smoking crack about the last week, and that's probabley what he was going through that night. i called the VA hospital and spoke to a nurse of him about all that was going on, next thing i kno the police have surrounded the house with riffles ans i was kept outside, they were told i was being held at knifepoint, which was not the case, but now have a no contact 72 hrs, he went to phyc with the police b/c he threatened suicide that i am leaving him, i just wanted him to go to detox, but all this has happened and i will be the blame for this too, along with the drugs and alcohol . he kept saying if you could hug me once and awhile???like this would be ll it takes for it all to stop! so now i have to leave fast as i don't feel safe with this person i have been with most of 8 yrs, found out the guys he is with have beeeen in prison for seeling drugs and do plan on giving there names.....to bad i have to lose my job, my furniture i moved here again..if ya read my posts you know this is not the first time i made a stupid choice by believing in him...maybe this time..it will be very hard as you all know they all are nice people, for the short time you get to see that one...plan to move to Florida by sister. start all over at 54yr. i never want to ever be in this position again though..way to hard i have given up alot to try to hang in there and hope things get better. will try and find alonon meetings in florida once i calm down......will keep in touch though. Mary
Life does get that bad when the disease is rolling Maryam. This is the insanity we talk about in recovery. Knowing what I have experienced in the room of Al-Anon I suggest you don't wait for Florida and find a meeting closer and sooner than later.
I will keep you in my prayers. Stay safe and keep strong. Starting over from nothing is hard I know because I've done it. One night I had to leave my home of over 20 years in under an hour with just my daughter and what we could carry. Looking back I now see it as a gift. I lost everything, but not the most precious thing, our lives. We got our lives back, no more violence no more crazyness. Make yourself the main priority.
You will find all the support you need here and in f2f meetings. Keep coming back.
Keep coming back.. You will be surprized how much this support can help you in your time of need, you just need to take in everything that happened and find a way to make it your happy ending..
Keeping yourself safe is the main thing... THings will get better, it will be tough for a while, till you get your balance back, but find yourself a F2F and keep coming back. We all here have had our Horrible Days, that is why we are all here for one another. "OneDay at a Time is all you really need to worry about". Make this your "New" day!
Take what you want and leave the rest :)
I will keep you in my Prayers.. Friends in Recovery Jozie
((((maryam)))) Whatever you do just take care of u, ok? Once violence enters the picture it is a whole new scarey world. Please above all else make sure you are safe, and please try to find a f2f meeting whereever you end up. You will find more love and help in those rooms than anywhere else in the world. Put the focus on you now and getting yourself where you want to be in life and remember the A has a HP all his own to take care of him. Please keep coming back Your friend in recovery shelly
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
Sorry you have got to this point. I've certainly been there and done that. You can get better with recovery from codependency. Do keep up and let us know what you are doing. Are you involved with a shelter? Are you involved with a domestic violence agency?
What are the resources for you at your sister's?
Please do get help, get emergency counselling. Get every assistance you can because you are worth it. We will be there for you as you transition through this.
Try to take the focus off him and onto taking care of yourself. Maybe this incident will be the motive for him to get help, maybe not. Clearly he needs it but you are not the person who can arrange it.
