The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Yes, he was/is drinking. I finally heard from him more than 48 hours later. He called me sobbing and crying, begging me to come and help him. He wanted me to get a babysitter and come and take care of him. He was apologizing left and right and then proceeded to tell me how lonely he was, how he didn't want to be alone anymore. That he did't want to live this way anymore.
I simply said, in a calm, queit voice. "I will not come and help you. I suggest you call your sponsor or AA fellow. I will talk to you when you have yourself together." Click.
I am in a similar position to you Canary. My AGF has been drinking this past month. We have been on and off, on and off. Yesterday she was supposed to be coming over to my home to try sort this mess out. to cut a long story short she went and got drunk and high instead. She contacted me today to say it wasn't her fault she didn't come yesterday, it was her car not working and could we meet another day. I told her no. Stop treating me like a mug and go and sort her life out.
I've not heard back. I don't feel good about it but I been here way too many times before and I've had it. God go with me and you. Hugs.