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carolinagirl


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I'm finding it really hard not to get sucked back in to making all my time about the new boyfriend.  I can't get enough.  I want to be with him every free moment and have stopped doing things I need to do.  I know this.  I just can't seem to stop myself.  Why quit something so wonderful???  UGH.  It's like I have to WORK so hard to avoid doing something that I really WANT to do and put forth so much effort to do something I don't.  Why can't I just have the good stuff ALL the time???



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db55


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In my past relationships I found that the more of myself I gave up the less attractive to the man I became.  Therefor it was the demise of the relationship.  Hmmmmmwink

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Jozie


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Carolinagirl....

Well If you are not taking care of what you are suppose to, and you are not taking care of you FIRST, then you are not giving your New boyfriend the real you... You are giving him the one that you were trying to be!!!

Only you can make your mind as to what is and isn't what you want out of YOUR life, I wish you the best, talk to your HP and really give it some time, you may find that all you want is yourself, to be loved by your new b/f as Yourself...

Take it one day at a time, and Let go and Let God... You'll get there...

Jozie

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I don't doubt you've been very very lonely taking care of 3 children all on your own. Of course you want to spend a lot of time in a relationship that's been the norm for you.   When we are doing something different it feels awful sometimes.  The bottom line for me is that for me personally I know where what I did in the past took me to.

Maresie.

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Christy


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((((CG))))

I guess we've known eachother long enough we could say we're friends.  So...As your friend..

Allow me to cuff you on the back of the head and say *snap out of it sistah friend!!!!!* 

Nevah, nevah base your happiness on being with or doing for someone else.
You know who needs to be number1.gif

He can't love you for who you are if you are not being you.  This is why after a few years guys say "You didn't used to be like this."

You'll work it out, you've come this far   biggrin
Make a daily priority list if you have to.


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((((Aloha CG))))

My ESH is on a PM.

C U there.

((((Hugs))))

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maire rua


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Yes, the real you is wonderful and inspiring, you don't have to give that up.

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